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UnknowingAndUnexperienced
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Is it possible to just grind without clothing being "in the way" and still not have sex? Does that make sense? Like, it'd be like dry humping except it's not dry haha.
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Heather
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When you say sex, do you mean intercourse?

I ask because when people choose to do things that feel sexually good for them, coming from their sexual desire, we tend to call that sex, whether there's clothing or not.

The line, as it were, between what dry humping (or frottage, if you want to get technical) and intercourse is can be pretty tricky once people aren't wearing clothing, and they're not all that different. It can seem like it in abstract, but once it's actual, and people are doing both, it's a lot more clear that what can seem like a huge difference really isn't at all.

But from a perspective of STIs and pregnancy, if and when someone with a penis and someone with a vagina are doing that without clothing, people need to figure they have the same risks as with intercourse. From that standpoint, they aren't different at all.

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Oh well then yes I do mean intercourse. And I didn't know that intercourse and this isn't all that different from each other. It makes sense the way you put it.

Let me rephrase what I meant though. I was wondering if it was possible to just do that and not have intercourse. Like, my boyfriend is worried something might accidently "slip in" hahaha. I really don't think that would happen but it's better to just check and make sure.

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Well, that's pretty much how intercourse starts, and when everyone is slippery and turned on down there, then yes, it is sometimes really easy for someone with a penis to just slide in without intending to.

As well, if you don't want to have intercourse, you probably don't want to be doing this either, since all the risks are the same, you know?

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Ahh ok. And yeah I agree, probably not the best idea right now haha. Thank you so much for your help [Smile]
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