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loopsicle
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My girlfriend and I had protected sex 13 days ago (i wore a condom). Before we had sex, she stimulated me with her hand for about a minute. Then we got everything ready, including taking our clothes off and putting the condom on. A few minutes after she had stimulated my penis with her hand, she applied some lube to the outside of the condom (it was a spermicidal condom if that makes any difference). We then had sex. The condom did not rip or tear.

We did this day 16 of her cycle, which is really inconsistent and can last anywhere between 25-33 days. It is now day 29 (13 days later) and she is experienced nausea and headaches yesterday and today. She is scared that she may be pregnant from our incident and is wondering if she could be experiencing morning sickness.

I guess what I'm wondering is if there is a chance that she could be pregnant after that. She said that her hands were dry from getting her clothes off and stuff, and I'm not even sure any precum came out during the 1 minute she stroked me. But maybe putting lube on her hands could've kept the sperm alive? Anyways, she is very worried and I told her I would do some research. I know a preg test would work but I can't get one until this weekend so I would like Fo ease her mind until then. Is there a chance she is pregnant, and can she experience morning sickness already or is she paranoid?

Thanks!

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Why don't you two take a look at this article:
Pregnancy Scared?

Too, the first sign of pregnancy is usually a missed period. After that, it takes quite a while for other symptoms to show up. So, even if she was pregnant, she would not be experiencing any symptoms at this point.

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Johanna
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Thanks for your reply. I am still having trouble interpreting whether or not we even had a risk though if the condom didn't break. Could sperm have gotten from my precum to the outside of the condom if her hamd was dry and it was several minutes later?
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Here's a good rule of thumb when it comes to pregnancy risk: any time you start mapping out possible routes that sperm could have taken from one place to another, you can be pretty sure that you do not have a pregnancy risk from that particular scenario. For the most part, it really does take direct genital contact to create a pregnancy risk.

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Thank you!
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Ok, her period still hasn't come yet. We bought a few clearblue hpt's last night. She took one last night and right away when she woke up, both reading negative. The last time we had sex was a week ago (no mishaps since the one I described earlier in this thread or condom breakage). She normally gets her period around day 27 now, but a few years ago it was 30 and she got it as late as 34 days one time (she is very physically active, causing some irregularity). Today is day 33... how certain can we be of the negative results? Is it possible that she is pregnant but just hasn't "missed" her period yet, causing the results to be off?
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You usually want to wait at least 10 days before you take a pregnancy test to make sure that the result is accurate.

You haven't had a real risk, so a pregnancy test is mostly for your peace of mind. But you'll still likely want to retest in a few days to make sure that the test gives you an accurate result.

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