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bigfarty
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I have being pain in my clitoris so I decided to visit the gyno for the first time. When I got there I was so nervous that I totally flipped out and now I think the gyno thinks I'm a slut and I'm so embarrassed!!! and don't know what to do!!! what happened was I thought since my clitoris is on the outside i thought he was just gonna look visually so I was unprepared.( I am a virgin) He said to open my legs but i started shaking them a bit and didn't really open my legs cuz I was embarrassed and I didn't know what was going to happen. He started pulling my vagina open really hard and I literally jumped back and finally he started inserting a long cotton swab into my vagina and then I just flipped out and started screaming that it hurt. then he stopped I got SO embarrassed and I apologized to him a million times. I'm so embarrassed and I still think about it.How can I get over this? Does the doctor think I'm a weirdo?I have to go back to that office but this time I have to see a nurse practitioner since the doctor is always booked but I'm embarrassed that maybe the nurse said something to some of the other people working in the office. But the doctor and nurse cant talk about what happened to anyone else can they? This happend last month but I still feel bad. Please help!
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when I was there I started shaking my legs out of nervousness and I think it looked provocative because the nurse started laughing at me and she gave me the dirtiest look ( the gyno was probably laughing too but I couldnt see his face bcuz of the towel)
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she was smiling at the doctor so he had to have been laughing too
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You know, it's not really their job to make assumptions about whether or not a person is provocative (and actually pretty outside the scope of the appointment.) I'm not sure why they were laughing, but have you thought about going to see someone other than that office's doctors (considering you don't seem comfortable with them?)? also, sometimes it helps to let them know you're nervous/uncomfortable, so they know to let you know what they're doing all along the way. Sorry it was such a bad experience for you though.

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When i said provocative i think that maybe he thinks that I was coming on to him or trying to flirt by shaking my legs
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That would be an awfully strange thing for an OB/GYN to assume. He should be pretty experienced in anxious patients and know that shaking is not at all unusual.

I'm so sorry this went like this for you. That nurse behaved unprofessionally, very. So, if possible, I'd suggest switching to another clinic or practice, not because *you* did anything wrong, but because as a patient, you are entitled to professional care.

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