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SakiH
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Some time ago I made a vow to wait to have sex until I was 18, I'm almost there but I've been dating my boyfriend for almost a year now and I completely trust him. We fool around with outer-course and whatnot constantly being careful; but I never find it exciting enough to orgasm. We're both virgins and I finally want to have sex with him, but I find myself conflicted...The only form of birth control we have are condoms and I'd really like to be on something safer, yet there's no planned parenthood in my city! I couldn't tell my parents or ask them because they would flip!!! And I don't like the thought of lying to my doctor about having sex because my mother is in the room. How do I finally make a decision?? [Confused]
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Well, if you want to have intercourse because you haven't been able to orgasm from other activities, know that the chances of you being able to orgasm from intercourse aren't all that great. For one thing, few women are able to reach climax from intercourse alone, simply due to the way female anatomy works. For another, if you don't find the sexual activities you've been having all that exciting, jumping ahead to intercourse isn't going to be all that helpful. You may benefit much more from taking some more time to explore your body and learn to get to know it better and find out what DOES feel exciting and pleasurable to you.

I'm going to link you to a few articles that I think may help you in your decision:
Ready or Not? The Scarleteen Sex Readiness Checklist
Yield for Pleasure
The Great No-Orgasm-from-Intercourse Conundrum
Is THAT All There Is?

Birth Control Bingo!

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"The question is not who will let me, but who is going to stop me." -Ayn Rand

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Thank you [Smile]
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