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My boyfriend and I have just started having sex but whenever he is inside of me neither of us can feel anything. We both feel as though something is there but it's neither pleasurable or painful. Please help, I'm scared there might be something wrong with me and/or if I'll never feel sex ever.
Thanks so much guys, I really do appreciate any advice you may have!

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By sex, I assume you mean intercourse?

If so, before you are having intercourse (and during), are you feeling VERY aroused? Are you both having other kinds of sex first, like oral or manual sex, for each of your bodies, to get more and more turned on before you begin intercourse?

Let's talk about those things.

However, also know that for a lot of people, intercourse is NOT the big whoop it can be made out to be. For women, most of the vagina isn't rich with sensory nerve endings to feel high sensation, and for men, sometimes intercourse can feel a lot more general than other kinds of sex. The good news is that none of us are obligated to do anything sexual that doesn't feel good or compelling: the goal is always to create a sex life as a couple based on what DOES work for each of us, which tends to be very individual.

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