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Ok, so my boyfriend and I are planning on having sex. I'm very positive I'm ready to have sex, but I have this fear about getting knocked up, and I believe I'll ALWAYS have that fear; no matter how many times I'll have sex in the future.

I was reading on the site, and it says condoms will protect you from sex. I'm sooo scared that it'll break during sex :|

So..before we have sex, if I have oral sex with him, that way he'll have an orgasim before we actually do it and we have sex with protection, is there any chance of me getting knocked up?


Oh, and what if you don't use lube during sex?
Does that have any affect on anything?

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A man having an orgasm before intercourse doesn't offer any protection from pregnancy. After all, a man can always orgasm or ejaculate again.

However, condoms used properly offer 96% protection. So, if you two use them properly every time, you have a very low risk of pregnancy. If you want more protection than that, you can take a look at our chart for effectiveness ratings for other methods combined with condoms: The Buddy System: Effectiveness Rates for Backing Up Your Birth Control With a Second Method
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Not using lubricant for intercourse, especially with condoms, often results in intercourse not feeling all that great sometimes, especially if it goes on for a while. Using lube also helps keep condoms from breaking. You can get lube the same places you get condoms.

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Okayy, thanks.

What's the chances of a condom breaking without using lube?

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I don't know where I'd find any data on that. All I can say is that it's less likely AND more likely intercourse will feel good to you. So, it's one of those things that when you can have it, it's usually a good thing people want. If you're out at some point, you're out, and if you're lubricating enough on your own it can be fine, but things just don't always work out that way, especially with the added friction of condoms.

Do you have issues with lubricants you want to discuss?

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Thank youuu.

And, no not really.

My boyfriend says I "lubricate myself" enough already.

So, thanks:)

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Thing is, your boyfriend can't feel what it feels like for YOU. Only you can. A partner isn't the expert on what things feel like to us: we are. So, if you find that there's too much friction without lube, or YOU want to do a little something extra to keep condoms intact, that shouldn't be up to your boyfriend.

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