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miyukime
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here's my story:when me and my bf are making out,we are tightly hugging each other that results in me feeling his private part so close to mine.i know pregnancy can't happen there but what i'm worried about is he said he wet his boxers because he was aroused.but he said it didn't go through his pants.HELPPPPP!!!! what if it did go through his pants without us noticing it?does his pants have to be super soaked for the fluids to pass through mine?we only hugged for 1 minute or less and the fluids cannot pass that fast right?we did not have dry sex because i didn't grind on him whatsoever.i've read all you articles about it but i'm still i'm paranoid.i'm so worried if i don't get my period. PLEASE ANSWER ALL OF MY QUESTIONS

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Sam W
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So, in the articles you've read, what does it say about the risk of pregnancy is somebody is clothed (and keep in mind that we take fluids into account)?

This article might help as well: Human Reproduction: A Seafarer's Guide

[ 03-18-2014, 06:38 PM: Message edited by: Sam W ]

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miyukime
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it says it has no risk but a low risk if wearing thin clothing like only underwear.
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And that's the case.

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Sam W
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It sounds like this is causing a lot of stress. It may be best to scale back on what you're doing until you feel better informed about the risks and more comfortable with them when/if they are present

[ 03-18-2014, 06:46 PM: Message edited by: Sam W ]

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miyukime
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thank you so much ^_^.but can i ask one more question?can you please explain to me how bodily fluids are shared and more importantly how long does it take to share them?sorry for the bother but it may help me set my mind at ease for sometimes i get paranoid so much i see only pregnant women here and there, and i think i have frequent urination and i eat a lot.

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Of course you can. [Smile]

There's not really a how long for this.

People can share body fluids when they have the kind of contact where those fluids are present and also have contact with someone else's body.

It might help, with this, to think about when you can get your mucus on someone if you sneeze, and how if you cover your mouth, that can't happen, but if you walk up to someone and sneeze an inch away, without covering your nose and mouth, you are likely to get it on them.

You can rest assured the pregnant women you see? Probably mostly because so when no one was dressed, at all, and they were engaging in intercourse. Next up after that are pregnancies from sexual assaults or from in-the-lab fertilization. But you can be sure NONE of those are from people being dressed and rubbing their bodies together.

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When you say bodily fluids being shared, are you referring specifically to how things like pregnancy and STI transmission happen? If so, the first article I linked to is a good place to get started, and you can check back if you have questions.
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miyukime
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thank you so much!!your site helped me a lot. before i found out about your site. i looked it up in the internet where it says that its has a low risk.
so if he did wet his pants that doesn't change a fact?

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what does it mean by there's mo direct genital-to genital sex contact,but someone with a penis ejaculated inside or near a vagina?is that applicable to my situation because that poses a risk
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When we say direct, we mean direct with no barriers (clothes count as barriers). So for contact, that means bare genitals touching, and for ejaculation that means there was nothing between the ejaculate and the vagina.

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miyukime
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So NO DIRECT contact with genitals but ejaculated near the vagina means they're naked or they did something with no barriers but their genitals did not came close?
sorry for the bother

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I think this article may help you understand what types of contact pose a pregnancy risk and what kinds don't (and what we mean by direct contact)
http://www.scarleteen.com/cgi-bin/forum/ultimatebb.cgi?/ubb/get_topic/f/10/t/002611.html#000000

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miyukime
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I'm a less paranoid now thank you.and i hope i can have a peace of mind that there's no such thing as pregnancy with clothing on even with fluids because there's no direct(as in no barriers at all)contact of the genitals.


but may i ask, what if both clothes were soaked with that fluids, does that make an exception?sorry for my curiosity.

thank you for being patient

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There is no exception for that.

As you can see in our Human Reproduction article Sam linked you to above, the process of reproduction is quite complex and requires specific circumstances. For sperm to get to an ovum (egg), they have to travel there. They need some help to travel: they have to be in their liquid, semen, and the semen needs some kind of propulsion into and up the vagina.

Semen on clothes is not going anywhere. Soaked, wet and soggy clothes will just be soaked, wet and soggy clothes, and will have zero to do with reproduction [Smile]

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miyukime
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sorry for asking again T.T
but i was starting to calm myself until i saw on sexetc.org(i dunno if i got the website right) hat someone posted a comment saying she got pregnant 8 weeks old from dry sex fully clothed!she even said that her doctor told her that sperm can pass through clothing. there are some websites which you can ask a doctor, and that doctor said it is possible that the sperm can travel through clothing?pls. i know what we did is not dry sex but sorry i'm getting confused again.
im so sorry if im starting to annoy all of you T.T
i'm just really easy to freak out

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Reading things somewhere else does not change our answers here. Especially when what you are reading are not studies, but unmoderated, unidentified anecdotes.

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something happened. we were making out again.heavier than the usual.he has boxers and pants,i have highwaisted pants,thin shorts, and undies.the he started rubbing his genitals on my leg!i stopped him when he rubbed it 3 times.i cannot pregnant from that but he wet his boxers more than the usual(he said)but it didn't wet his pants. im so worried my period is late.and also our genitals came close often due to hugging
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What you're describing here is no different, risk-wise, than what we've covered already in this thread.

Since this sort of activity is clearly causing you a lot of distress, maybe you could talk to your partner about not engaging in any sort of genital rubbing for now, so you won't have to worry so much while you get a handle on these fears?

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miyukime
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thank you so much.
i told him that and he said he was sorry and he will not do that again.
there's still no risk right?

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What did Molias just tell you?

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i got my period now and i'm quite relieved.
so sorry for being paranoid but i need one las assurance
this period isn't implantation or decidual bleeding right since i pose no risk?

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