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moa
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hi. i was wondering.. after my boyfriend would finish in me, about five seconds later all his fluid would just pour back out again.. it never used to happen, it just started a few months ago. and same with queefing. at about the same time. why is this happening? is there anything i can do to stop it or fix it?
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Heather
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It's called gravity. And not only is there nothing we can do about it, since it'd involve all of us floating off the planet, we probably don't want to do anything about it. [Smile]

It's normal for semen to run out of the vagina after intercourse. Semen is the fluid that both balances out the pH of vaginal fluids for sperm viability and which carries sperm to the cervical opening: once they're there, they don't need semen anymore. If it never used to happen before, you may not have been noticing, or your partner simply may not have been ejaculating much, or at all. Too, you may see more semen run out during different times of your fertility cycle, because of the fluidity or stickiness of vaginal secretions: they aren't always the same.

"Queefing" happens when air is pushed into the vaginal canal. Some positions can cause that to happen for some women more than others, and not using enough lube can sometimes impact that, too. But it's nothing to worry about: it's a common thing.

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so if i dont get out of bed, and stay laying on my back, it wont come out until i stand up?
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Heather
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If I pour water into a cup and don't tip it in any way, the water is going to stay in there.

However, when you're laying on your back, your vagina is not sitting like a straight-up cup, but like a tilted one. Now, if you were doing a headstand.... then, yes. But I'm not sure why you'd do that.

Can I ask why you are feeling concerned about this?

[ 06-29-2009, 03:42 PM: Message edited by: Heather ]

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Is there a reason you're concerned about this?

Standing up or moving around is likely to speed the process of fluids coming back out. If you stay laying, then it may not leak out as much until you start moving about...but there still may be some even laying down.

(Heather beat me to it. [Smile] )

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moa
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just because right after we finish, i have to run right to the bathroom because it starts to pour out from between my legs, all over my legs. and it makes it very awkward, and grosses both of us out. i cant even have after-sex cuddle, because it gets in the way. it's awfully irritating.
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Yeah, but that's just part of how it goes.

You have a couple options if you don't like this as-is. You can keep tissues or wipes wherever it is you usually have sex for this purpose. Or, your partner can use condoms so that it's a non-issue.

But I would advise both of you re-thinking your thinking on considering it gross. Sex is messy. It often involves at least some fluids: sweat, saliva, vaginal secretions, ejaculate, sometimes even blood, urine or tears. If sex itself isn't gross (and I don't think it is), then the aspects of our bodies that sex engages or produces shouldn't be gross either, you know?

[ 06-30-2009, 10:53 AM: Message edited by: Heather ]

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yea, got it. not too shabby.
thanks for replying so quickly, and well. i appreciate it [Smile]

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Happy to be of help. [Smile]

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