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bevolution
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For the longest time, longer than I can remember, I have experienced pain when I get aroused. I don't know what arousal is "supposed" to feel like, but it's rarely a fluttery feeling in my vagina; more like a tight, sharp pain. I get it from kissing, touching, or sometimes, just looking at that man I call mine own. [Smile] Also, I am a virgin; could this relate?
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Karybu
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No one should be experiencing pain during arousal, whether they've ever been sexually active at all or not. Have you talked to a doctor about this? That would be the best place to start - your regular doctor may be able to diagnose you, and if not, they should at least give you a referral to a gynecologist to see what's up.

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Heather
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Are there any other times you have this pain? For instance, does contact with water or other fluids give you pain?

Any sexual trauma or abuse in your history?

And just to be sure: when you say pain, do you mean pain, rather than, say sensation? If it is pain, one a 1-10 scale of pain, ten being something like breaking a leg or being stabbed, what level are you at?

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No, no sexual trauma or abuse in my past.

The pain is internal. It doesn't feel like someone poking my vagina, or anything like that. So in that way, it is like a sensation; but it's still a sharp, tight pain. Stretching or moving around doesn't help to make it go away; it just goes away once the rest of my body has calmed down.

On a scale from 1-10, 10 being something like breaking a leg, it's a 3. But still really confusing. I had come to accept that when I am turned on, my vagina would contract, and be in this pain. But apparently, it's not normal.

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Heather
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Internal where? Inside your vagina or behind the other external parts of your vulva, or in your uterus, like with menstrual cramps?

Do you have this pain even after orgasm?

(Just FYI, I'm personally not sure yet it's not normal. Some of why is that it's often tough to talk about pain and pleasure, because our thresholds for both are so varied, as are our experiences of what pain is and what general genital sensations are.)

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It's definitely not in my uterus, but I'm not sure what part of the vulva it is in. It feels like it's right at the vaginal opening, perhaps. Though this may not be what's actually happening, it feels like my vagina is closing. I don't know, it could be vaginismus...though I don't know why that would happen before I've even had sex.

No pain after orgasm--I've never had one.

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Heather
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Why I asked about orgasm is because you said things feel better after your body calms down.

When we get aroused, one thing that happens is that blood pools around our pelvises: if we stay aroused without stimulus or orgasm, all that blood can stay hanging around there which can manifest in pain or discomfort. How much pain tends to have a lot to do with a given person's pain threshold.

When guys talk about "blue balls" that pooling -- technically known as vasocongenstion -- is what they're talking about. And it may be what you're experiencing, too. Generally, that is resolved either with orgasm (and you may want to see if that works for you per masturbation) or just 20-30 minutes of time and "calming down."

Vaginismus is relatively rare, and women without any kind of sexual trauma or vulval pain conditions (and since you're having no pain at other times, I think we can probably rule those out) are highly unlikely to have it. It also doesn't usually exhibit pain unless something is pushed into the vaginal opening. But it's certainly something you can check out with your sexual healthcare provider, which you may want to do anyway.

Lastly, with arousal, the vaginal muscles do tend to get a little more active, so that may be the closing sensation you're describing you feel.

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