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I was in a debate with someone about premarital sex, and it led to these statements by them:

"If something is easily transmitted without sex, then why is it [herpes] even classified as an STD? Obviously I wouldn't blame a person for having that.

I don't even believe in"The One." You make your own "One." If you can't enjoy sex with the person you chose because they're not doing it just the way you want it, then you're obviously selfish and needy.

Sex is a bodily function to unite the sperm and egg cells, creating a child. If you don't want a child, then there is no purpose for you to have sex. If I didn't want a child, I wouldn't plan on having sex.

Oh, and by the way, your statistics were wrong. It's lower, and even with your statistics, if you had sex a thousand times, you'd have a child. It's just a matter of time."

I'm appalled and can't even BEGIN to respond to this in an eloquent (or curse-free) way. Can someone help me?

“I thank God I was raised Catholic, so sex will always be dirty.” --John Waters

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My first suggestion might be to print of a couple of applicable articles from the main site and the CDC (Center for Disease Control) and hand them over. That would serve as pretty strong evidence to support your argument.

As for point one: STD/STI refers to the most common way of transfer, but certainly not the only one. HIV is also considered an STI, but had a huge prevelance by transfusions and dirty needles earlier on (though transfusions are not the case now. This was true, though, before screening was mandatory).

Point two: not everyone is sexually compatible. Nor does everyone communicate effectively, which can lead to some pretty rotten sex.

Point three: They're arguing solely from a biological standpoint, I imagine. If that was ever the case, it's certainly not now. Sex remains the best way to conceive, but not the only way. Nor is it meant for procreational purposes only.

Point four: Again, CDC or ST material to back up any stats you're using.

If someone is not willing to listen, making debate difficult, you always have the option of not brining up the topic in question, too. Not everyone wants to engage in discussion, though would love to give their opinion.

Does that help?

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