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Recently my girlfriend and I had oral fir the first time. Only I was the only one doing anything. We talk about the whole topic pretty regularly, and she says she would do it to me, but whenever I bring up the topic she seems scared. She says she doesn't want me to cum in her mouth, and I wouldn't. I've promised her I wouldn't. Is there anything I can say to get her to feel more confident about the topic?
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Welcome to Scarleteen!

If her biggest concern is you ejaculating in her mouth, that's easily taken care of: safer sex! Using condoms that are either flavored or using flavored lubricants makes sure the taste isn't an issue and prevents any ejaculate from going in her mouth.

It's a good idea anyway, to use condoms, since anytime there's the transfer of fluids, there's a distinct chance of passing on any STIs.

The other best thing I can recommend is to keep talking. If she's scared, then don't force her. Let her let you know when she's ready to go forward.

In the meantime, here's some light reading:
Safer Sex

Talking about Sex with your Partner

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