1. First of all, if you think you've had a miscarriage, you need to see a doctor. You do need to take another pregnancy test ... Chances are good that if all of the 'products of conception' were expelled, you'll get a negative pregnancy test. However, it is possible to retain part of the embryo ... This could give you a positive pregnancy test, AND put you at great risk for uterine infection. You NEED to be seeking medical care here.
2. It's impossible for any of us to say whether or not your ex wanted you for sex. It's possible. It's possible that sex changed the relationship for him. It's possible that something else came up, totally unrelated, that made him decide to end it.
3. You're not responsible for someone elses self esteem. You can tell someone that you love them just the way they are until 'the cows come home' and that's not going to change their image of themselves if they're not willing to accept themselves as they are. You can keep telling him that you love him the way he is, and tell him specific parts about him that you love ... And ask him what parts of him he loves too ... But don't feel responsible for his self esteem. You're not ... and you're not helping either of you in taking on this responsibility when there's so little you can do.
(Oh yeah ... See a doctor. No, really. Please. No joking. Playing around w/ something like this is playing around w/ your fertility and even your LIFE. Good luck.)
[This message has been edited by LilBlueSmurf (edited 09-20-2005).]