severe pain during or after intercourse, like you described, should be checked out by a health care professional, to make sure all is okay.
There are several possible reasons for the symptoms you describe, such as an allergy to the condoms or lube that you use or an infection, and your health care professional will be able to examine you and evaluate what's up.
Urinary Tract Infections can be low grade or chronic, and need to be treated to avoid that a bladder infection moves upwards to the kidneys. Some STDs can cause pain during and after intercourse, too.
Apart from that, if you've been using spermicidal condoms, switch to plain ones. Use a simple water based lube at all times and make sure you are aroused and wanting intercourse when you have it. Pee before and after sexual activity to avoid a Urinary tract infection.
FYI, during intercourse, the penis can sometimes hit the cervix, which some women like, but which hurts to others. Changing position can eliminate that problem.
But for now: have yourself checked out, to be sure all is okay.
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