After the scare my boyfriend and I had this weekend (we thought I had posibly gotten pregnant by cum on his hand touching my vagina, and then I was late, but we found out I wasn't) we decided it might be a good idea if I went on the pill. We aren't planning on actually having sex anytime too soon but just want back up in case something like that happens agian. I would really like to talk to my mom about this since it is part of my medical history and if I need to go into the hospital or something they'll need to know. I am just scared to bring it up because I know she'll freak out and think we are having sex and get mad because he is 18 and I am only 15. I know where we want to get them and everything, but I don't feel right about doing this behind her back. What should I say? How should I explain this so she won't freak out? Could she actually send him to jail if she can't prove we've had sex? (she's threatened to before, it's not that she doesn't like him, she just does it when she gets pissed)Any advice would be greatly appreciated!!
oh dear. while your intentions are very much in the right place, i hate to say this, but your mom can still get your boyfriend in a lot of trouble.
While you may not be having actual intercourse, a lot of age of consent laws include things like oral and manual sex as things minors cannot legally consent to. I don't live in Michigan and I don't know their laws for sure, but it really is something you should look into.
On the other hand, please, do talk to your mother. Honesty is a great and wonderful thing. I know it's hard to bring stuff like this up; lord knows I couldn't do it when i was 15. Ask your mother to take you to the doctor. Talk to your doctor about the Pill first. Maybe he or she will know how best to approach the subject with your mom so that she won't freak out, and you won't have to hide from your mother.
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I hate to tell you this but the age of consent laws for us Michiganders prohibit you from legally having sex. Share this information with your boyfriend so the two of you can talk it over and decide what's best.
On the other hand, I think it's wonderful that you want to keep your parents informed. It's important for the very reasons you mentioned. Good luck, you have a complicated decision to make.
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