okay, i love my boyfriend and i know im ready..we never really have the chane to have sex..we are never completely alone long enough to have sex, and my parents went out for a nght and he came over and there was a bunch of ppl there and we didnt do nething. he wont make the move..hes just like that he doesnt know if i really want to but i always tell him i do.!!!wat is this abut!?! i really cant take the wait ne longer i have to have sex with him but i dont really kno what exacty to do!?! please help me!!
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I can't tell you what going on inside his head but I'm willing to be he can. It sounds like the two of you need to sit down together and communicate. Talk to each other openly and honestly about how you feel, what you want, and what to do about it. Remember that just because you are ready doesn't mean he is.
A way to start communication would be to read Ready or Not? and First Intercourse 101 together. Talk about what the articles say and how they apply to your relationship. Communication is everything.
has it occured to you that maybe *he* might not be ready for sex? ookuotoe brought up an important point. you won't know if he's ready if you don't talk to him about it. and your subject asks why you're "afraid" to have sex with your boyfriend. that sounds like you're hesitating. there's nothing wrong with hesitation, as long as you know it's a sign to hold off until you are 120% ready. so please follow that link ookuotoe posted for you. read it over with your boyfriend if possible (or email it to him, or print it out for him, etc.).
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