My friend is 14 and she says she's just friends with this 19 year old guy online. She said he's really sweet and not too good looking, but still really nice. She wants me and my other friend to go to the movies with them tomorrow night... and I don't want to, but I don't want my friend to go with this guy who is 5 years older than her! I just told her I don't want to go and she said fine, be that way, and now she's mad. Help! Quick!
[This message has been edited by Daydreamer24 (edited 11-29-2001).]
First of all, you're responsible for your actions and your actions alone. You can't really control what she decides to do ... You can help her out, and tell her you're concerned, but the final decision is really all hers.
That said, age really does have little to do w/ it. But if they've never met, he could be 75 and she wouldn't know any better. That's where it can become dangerous. You really don't know who it is that you're talking to online and sometimes you don't know until it's too late. I'm not trying to scare you, i'm telling you the facts; which i'm sure you already know.
If you do'nt want to go w/ her, say so. It's not right for you to put yourself in a situation you're not comfortable in just b/c she's going to do it anyway. She can get some other friends to go along w/ her if she still wants to go, but make it clear to her that she should certainly not be going alone.
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