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i know this is not a major problem, but anyways: my boyfriend and i have just starting getting more intimate and my question is, is it normal for both not to have an orgasm at the beginning? i couldn't make him cum and asked him if i was doin sth wrong but he said no.
with all of my previous boyfriends it took ages until they had an orgasm, often they didn't at all. even though they say it's not a problem, i'm scared that i'm incapable or that i'm wrong somewhere. is that the case w/other girls too?

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Sex isn't all about the orgasm. Really, it isn't. There could be a million and one reasons why your boyfriend didn't ejaculate, but that doesn't mean he isn't enjoying what's happening. Make sure that you're communicating while you're intimate, talking openly about what does and doesn't feel good is always a positive thing.

Don't let yourself get stressed out over this 'quest for orgasm'. Relax.

*And just as I side note, I hope you're practicing safer oral sex. Condoms and dental dams, and lube are very important in keeping both you and your partner safe!*

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