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Nazgul
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I'll just get straight to the point. I was born biologically a male and I've identified as such until up until about a few months ago (i'm 14 right now). But yeah the past few months i've just been increasingly dissatisfied with being a male and more comfortable with being like a female. So I think i'm actually transgendered.

But the thing is from what i've read most TG people seem to have identified as the gender opposite of their biological birth sex when they were between the ages of 2-7 years old. So does the fact that i've not really felt like being a girl until recently mean that i'm actually not TG?

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Molias
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Hi Nazgul, and welcome to Scarleteen.

Just so you know, there is a HUGE range of experiences among transgender people. There certainly are many such people who do feel cross-gender identification from a very young age! But it's not the only experience, or the only valid one, at all. There's no cutoff age for someone to be "really" trans.

For a while, a lot of medical professionals had a very narrow view of what was "acceptable" for trans identities, and some of that included a long-held identification with a gender other than the one assigned at birth. So, not only was that considered the proper trans narrative, but many people who didn't have that experience had to lie in order to receive medical treatment - and of course that just made this narrative seem to be a lot more common than it was!

The only person who can really know your gender identity for sure is you. It might take a while to figure it out, and that's fine! But not feeling like a girl when you were a toddler isn't a sign that you aren't transgender.

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Nazgul
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oh ok then

thanks for the help

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You're welcome! If you'd find it helpful to talk through any of your feelings here, we're happy to do that. =)
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