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Hi, I enjoy being female but when I am horny I wish I had a penis. I am a virgin and am worried when I find a sexual patner they will not understand my thinking. So I guess I am wondering if someone said that to you would you be turned off?
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Nope! Theoretically, if such a person were to be my sexual partner, I would talk to them about it and we would explore possible options for them to fulfill their sexual fantasy and working it out for me at the same time so that we both have an enjoyable time.

Just putting my 2 cents out there. [Wink]

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My ex (straight guy) thought feelings like that were weird, but he was a high school boy raised with a lot of unfortunate gender expectations, so that's not super surprising.

My two partners since then think my interest in having a penis in some situations is awesome and a turn-on, though they are quite happy with my body without one, too. I am totally okay with my partners expressing similar feelings to me.

Also, we live in a miraculous world where you can buy very realistic dildos and have sex while wearing them, if you are ever so inclined, so your fantasy interest could be a reality someday if you want it to be. I am sure there are a lot of people out there who have zero problem with feelings like that - I have met plenty of them.

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Not at all! I'm a trans woman, and I remember being really nervous about telling my last girlfriend, who was cisgender,(when we were still together, and this was when I was identifying as genderqueer and not particularly intending to transition), that I'd realized I wanted my genitals to be called my "clit."

I know I've had some partners who *weren't* okay with that, for sure, and that really does suck - although I think that serves as a good sign I shouldn't be with that person, ultimately. My last girlfriend - which was a really good relationship - told me that the idea of naming my genitals transgressively like that was really exciting to her. It really helped that she was so enthusiastic [Smile] I think more people are open to that than you might expect.

“In a strange room, before you are emptied for sleep, what are you. And when you are filled with sleep you never were. I don’t know what I am. I don’t know if I am or not... how often have I lain beneath rain on a strange roof, thinking of home.”

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