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hyperalien
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I'm not sure if I can fully articulate my question in words but I'll give it a try.
I identify as female and was born as a female. This being true, I still find myself wanting to dress as a man although I do not have an aversion, and even like certain styles, to women's clothing. I do not want to become a man, in the sense of a sex change. Yet I feel like something clicks,fills a void, when I wear masculine clothing.
I really don't know what to do with this information about myself or what that means in terms of transgender,cross-dressing, etc. Can anyone give me some insight into my situation?

[ 04-08-2012, 12:44 AM: Message edited by: hyperalien ]

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Heather
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Well, for starters, I don't think it's sound to expect that anyone who either wants to crossdress (but still feels like/identifies as the sex they were assigned at birth), or who feels more at home in dress of another sex as that feeling like the gender they want to present must be doing so because they feel an aversion to their assigned sex or its corresponding gender.

In other words, just like I can, say, like chocolate ice cream without feeling an aversion to vanilla, plenty of people can feel more at home in a given gender without feeling averse to others. Make sense? For sure, some people DO feel strongly negative about their assigned sex and gender who feel a greater affinity for another, but some don't, too.

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Hey hyperalien, I identify as female and feel the same way about clothing as you do (and have since I was a little kid). In my teenage years, especially, I struggled with many of the issues you bring up and I had a hard time trying to figure out where I "fit" gender-wise. It was actually listening to comedian Eddie Izzard discuss his experiences as a sometimes cross-dressing, heterosexual man that made me realize I didn't have to try and "fit" anywhere. In my early twenties I started to embrace the idea that my taste in clothing is a part of *my* identity, as a unique person, and not something that necessitated categorizing me into a specific group.
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Eddie Izzard being someone's educator on this makes me SO HAPPY.

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I'm glad! Eddie Izzard is pretty fantastic. I remember having a light-bulb moment hearing him say that sometimes he felt like dressing in woman's clothing, other times in men's clothing, and that's just a part of who he is.
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