Hey, I'm a straight male teenager, and I have a problem.
I've always felt uncomfortable with body hair, and a few months ago I started shaving it. Recently, however, my parents, who I've always known to be understanding and open-minded, strongly urged me to stop. They even went so far as to try and convince me that ingrown hair infections could force me to get a limb amputated. They told me that people will come to conclusions about me, possibly assuming that I'm homosexual (which I'm not). My dad used an anecdote about his thoughts on a man with a blue mohawk as an example.
I have my thoughts on this matter, but I'd like to hear the opinions of people on this board about male body hair.
Posts: 2 | From: America! | Registered: Jun 2010
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"Q: If women shave their pubic hair, should men do it, too? A: Only if you really want to. Some people prefer their partners shave. Others don't. So if you really need to get your partner's input on this, then ask. But ultimately, it's your hair. You can shave, trim, or style it if you want. Pubic grooming says nothing about your sexual orientation, it's just a personal preference."
We can extend it to the rest of your body's hair. If you feel most comfortable shaving your hair, then just don't worry about the people who wouldn't be attracted to someone who shaves their hair.
There will be both men and women who think that either/both/neither men and women should shave some or all of their body hair. It's really not worth wasting your time worrying about what other people think about it, because if it's important to you, it's going to be important to you regardless of what other people think.
That's true for anything you want to think about that doesn't harm anyone (or isn't illegal-- there are things that you might reconsider simply because they're illegal even if they harm nobody).
You know too? There's social implications about a lot of things. The way someone walks, talks, sits, stands, dressed, does their hair, if they wear make-up. If we followed what society thought and said, well there would be a WHOLE lot of people that were in a WHOLE load of trouble.
Whether or not any person shaves, no matter their gender or sexual orientation tell you little more than simply they don't like having hair where they shaved. For instance, swimmers (male and female) that swim in speed competitions often shave to increase speed. Some people shave their legs, others arms, some shave everywhere. It's a personal preference based on what you feel and what feels right for you. And we can't always worry about what people that don't know us think, and your friends may be more supportive than your family if you simply explain you don't like the feel of it.
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