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junior69
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when the first time we got sex with my boyfriend my vagina is very painful as his pennis get inside my vagina as the pennis go inside and out the and go longer i feel so good even it is painful... when my bf got orgasm he remove his pennis and come out outside my vagina.... do i got fregnant even though my bf come out outside my vagina? when i got home i take an aspirin cortal, is this medecine good to prevent it for getting fregnant? what is the side effect? i notice also that there is a discharge on my vagina when i got home after we got sex... is this normal when u got sex with your bf for the first time?
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cool87
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The rule of pregnancy is simple : if any semen come in contact with your vulva or vagina, there is a risk you get pregnant. You said he ejaculated outside your vagina, but did any semen came in contact with your genitals ?

You may not have had a high pregnancy risk right now but if it were me I wouldn't take a second chance next time. There's always a probability your boyfriend won't come out in time and that, that can get you pregnant if per mistake this happens. Myself, would not want to gamble with that.

So, I suggest you if you don't want to have to worry about pregnancy and even STDs (unprotected sex puts you at risk for those), you can use a condom and if you want to, you can also back it up with the contraceptive pill, but this isn't a necessity. The condom work just fine.

As for the aspirin cortal, I'll let another user inform you on that.

[ 10-14-2006, 12:46 PM: Message edited by: cool87 ]

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Actually, even if he didn't ejaculate inside you, precum, which can contain sperm, could have been on his penis, so you do have a bit of a risk here. The discharge from your vagina might have just been his semen leaking out - to paraphrase what a volunteer said in another thread (sorry, don't remember who it was or I'd give credit), the vagina doesn't have magical absorption powers!

Also, correct me if I'm wrong, but I don't believe the aspirin cortal will act as a contraception. If you want to make sure you don't get pregnant, it might be a good idea to try and get Emergency Contraception, and in the future, like cool said, condoms are a reliable and cheap way to practice safe sex.

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logic_grrl
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No, aspirin doesn't have any contraceptive power at all.

"Withdrawal" (which is what you're describing here) is not a reliable method of contraception either.

Check out this handy guide:

Margaret Sanger’s Disneyland: An easy chart of your birth control options

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The rule of pregnancy is simple : if any semen come in contact with your vulva or vagina, there is a risk you get pregnant.

Actually, cool87, you've got it wrong.

If sperm come into contact with the vulva, there's a risk of pregnancy.

There can be sperm in pre-ejaculate ("pre-cum") as well as in semen, which is one of the reasons why withdrawal isn't reliable as a method of contraception.

You've been on the boards a good while now, so you should know to make sure your info is correct before you rush to advise people.

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So to have it right I should have said : if semen which contain sperm went in contact with your vagina ?

Why when volunteers can simply say that just like I said ? I just look to verified what I said and I found plenty of others who did the same (volunteers).

Look here and here
and here also

I simply really really don't understand what's wrong. I'm aware that this is the sperm that can get a women pregnant but sperm is contain in semen, therefore I tought if semen comes in contact with someone's vulva or vagina this can lead to a pregnancy risk. Am I not right ?

Maybe this was just the formulation I don't know. But I'd really like an explanation.

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Semen is the fluid released when a man ejaculates. It contains sperm.

But sperm can also sometimes be contained in pre-ejaculate, the fluid released during arousal, before the man ejaculates. That can cause pregnancy too.

In general, you'll see people referring to semen in replies concerning situations where that's the only or primary risk.

That doesn't mean that there isn't a risk from pre-ejaculate too.

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