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butterflywings
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maybe this belongs in the gblt section, but i think it's a gender thing so i put it here.

whats so 'hot' about bisexual girls? it disturbs me a bit that theres this double standard. you don't hear women talking about how much they want to have 2 guys at once. yet, it's 'normal' for guys to talk about threesomes.

could you post your opinions about threesomes and such? i'm kind of confused about my sexuality, and this is a topic that often bothers me.
thanks


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BruinDan
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quote:
Originally posted by butterflywings:
you don't hear women talking about how much they want to have 2 guys at once. yet, it's 'normal' for guys to talk about threesomes.

Oh sure you do. Depending on who you're hanging out with, you're liable to hear all sorts of things. My office is chock full of women, and I hear all sorts of things all day long that venture into threesome territory. To stipulate that this is something that is purely gender-based seems awfully myopic to me.

To be honest, I'm not too sure how talking about threesomes will help you come to any conclusions about your sexuality, darlin'. And in fact, while we can discuss them in general terms, we need to make sure we keep things PG-13 as per the rules and regs of this fine establishment. So let's be cool, eh?

Opinions on threesomes are probably going to be as varied as the people who post them. The general consensus tends to be that they're all good so long as each person has a solid understanding of what they are getting into. Like anything else, jumping into a threesome is not a smart idea unless the consequences are weighed and understood. Just something one might want to keep in mind.

I'm not sure there is any one thing that makes bisexual girls any "hotter" than gay or straight ones. And by the same token, I'm not sure there is any double standard there at all. Frankly, different people are going to find different things attractive. While you may find one person who has a hankerin' for bisexual women, that person's sibling might drool over gay men. There just isn't any way to predict such things, and I don't think there is enough credence out there to make such blanket statements.

So take heart, my friend. No need to freak out over perceived double standards, and no need to be bothered by the concept of threesomes. In the immortal words of Benjamin Franklin, "It's all good."

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KittenGoddess
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quote:
Originally posted by butterflywings:
...whats so 'hot' about bisexual girls? it disturbs me a bit that theres this double standard. you don't hear women talking about how much they want to have 2 guys at once. yet, it's 'normal' for guys to talk about threesomes...

I'm a bit confused here...are you asking two questions? There's nothing intrinsic about being bisexual that has to do with threesomes. Not all bisexual women or men are interested in threesomes. I guess I don't see the connection.

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butterflywings
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i guess i just don't know anyone except a few guys who want bi girls. well i didn't. but today i was talking to my friend about threesomes. she.. hmm.. cleared a few miscomceptions i had. lol.
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Heather
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It's fairly standard (unfortunately) in the lesbian community for bisexual women (We'rewomen here, eh? Let's be women, not girls) to be painted as unappealing. And most of that is based on misconceptions about bisexuality, like, for instance, the notion that bisexuality must mean bisexuals NEED to have both male and female partners at all times (we don't) or that we must all be interested in simultaneous sexual partnerships like threesomes (we aren't).

I did a piece on this bias here a while back you might be interested in: http://www.technodyke.com/features/blackbird5.asp

You'll find that a lot of the male fantasy you;re hearing is just that: fantasy. And that's okay, so long as it's recognized as such. But even that recognition is going to be very limited because very few males are going to actively see or experience what woman-woman sexual or romantic relationships are like, on their own. A lot of men, especially younger men, making assumptions assume a threesome with bisexual women means, essentially, they get served by two women at once, or it's mostly about their entertainment. Again, it's fantasy, so it's going to be...fantastical.

Even the idea of a threesome of any gender combo is usually mostly fantasy in the abstract: for the most part, any group sex I've participated in just personally would not resemble a porn movie.

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