Hey, it's OK to want whatever you want . But if you're considering putting your desires into action - e.g. by having sex-reassignment surgery - then (like any other major step) that's something that requires serious thought. And normally counselling is something that will be required before sex-reassignment surgery.
As a practical point, having a penis and a vagina simultaneously may be difficult to achieve, since the standard surgery to contruct a vagina and vulva for male-to-female transsexuals usually makes use of the tissues that formerly made up the penis and scrotum. So you might need to think about precisely what it is you want and what your priorities are.
You may also need to think about what your gender identity is and how this relates to your feelings about your body.
Some people do identify as "both" or "neither" (as opposed to "male" or "female"), and may want to have their bodies surgically altered to fit that self-image (while others may keep their bodies the same and express their gender identity through the way they dress and act).
But there's not a lot of social awareness of this choice yet. And society is often very intolerant of people whose bodies aren't neatly "male" or "female", as many people born intersexed have found out. I'm not trying to discourage you if that's how you identify, but it's important to be aware of what you may have to face.
You may find it helpful to have a read through our article on trans and intersex issues:
Gender-neutral pronouns are just that - pronouns which (unlike "he" or "she" or "it"), don't specify the person's gender.
They can be used in a generic way (instead of "s/he" or "she or he" or "they", for example), or to refer to a specific person who doesn't identify as simply male or female, or who doesn't want their gender specified.
There are various sets of gender-neutral pronouns around, and many of them get pronounced in a variety of ways, so there's no "official" version.
One common way of using gender-neutral pronouns uses "ze" (or "zie" or "xe") where "she" or "he" might get used, and "hir" where "her" "his" or "him" might get used.
According to one internet survey, the majority of people seem to pronounce "ze" (and its variants) like "zee", and "hir" like "here", but there's a large amount of variation.
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