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Mary
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I have been classified as female all my life, but I can't deny some parts of me that are attracted to men's ways of living. For instance, I enjoy men's clothing... I like the jewelry sold for men, and I find men's wallets to be more practical. I like my hair short, and I enjoy looking masculine sometimes. I'm sure a lot of other females feel the same, so then why does everything have to be so segregated?

I often gravitate towards the men's section at Gap, and I find people looking at me, embarassed that I'm "accidently" on the wrong side of the store. But I love men's boxers! What can I say?

I don't like to be classified as a "girl" all the time, because I like to feel equal with everyone, and I feel as if I'm being seperated from the males.

At graduation, females are suppose to wear a certain color gown and males have to wear a different color. But why? They don't make the disabled wear different colors or African Americans wear red instead of blue... So why should it be any different with the sexes? I'm considering talking to the principal about it or possibly wearing the color reserved for "men" at my graduation, because I think of myself as part male.

What do you all think about the segregation?


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Apoc-chan
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Tomboys unite

I myself surf the "young men's" section of Kohls, where they have these awesome jeans that I love so much (JNCO jeans and shorts = the best). And wearing short shorts.... *shudder* Every pair of shorts I own is long enough to cover my knees.

As for the graduation thing, the segregation is tradition dating back probably forever ago. Way back when universities were beginning to accept women as students. I'm really just speculating, though. I bet you could find some info on google?

I always debated with myself whether I would ask to wear the guys' colored gown at graduation... Still haven't decided. My schoolmates would probably think I'm either gay or a freak, and my school is a den of homophobia and anti-freak preps. ~_~


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DarkChild717
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Fascinating. My high school's grad robes are straight black. Both sexes. I believe my college's are blue for both sexes as well.
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badly_behaved_badger
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I hear you sisters! People assume that I go out of my way to dress butch or something, but I don't - I just find tight 'girly' clothes uncomfortable and they don't fit in with my kind of lifestyle (I'm a very outdoor girl!)

I notice the segregation between men and women, but it has become less - I mean equal rights etc. I think the gap between men and women will always be there, because of the differences in how boys and girls are brought up.


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quote:
Originally posted by DarkChild717:
Fascinating. My high school's grad robes are straight black. Both sexes. I believe my college's are blue for both sexes as well.

Ours are red. Males and females.


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Celtic Daisy
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Ours are blue, both sexes as well. I think it's a little strange to have them 2 different colours whether you're a guy or a girl. I like the idea of them all being the same because you're all part of the same graduating class, and you're all equal on that day.

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BlackRoseFaery
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I don't even know what colors the senior have to wear at graduation, but I'm pretty sure that they're all the same color. One of my friends would've said something if they had been different.

Sometime, I think the guys clothes are just more comfortable. My favorite thing to wear is jeans and a T-shirt, but I still dress girly sometimes, although, most of the time I feel pretty fake when I'm wearing a skirt.

At prom I wore a dress and was miserable. If I go next year, I'm thinking of getting a suit.

Anyways, good luck on getting to wear the color you want at graduation, Mary

[This message has been edited by BlackRoseFaery (edited 06-13-2002).]


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I was hopping mad at my graduation on Monday. The girls had to carry long stemmy roses, while the boys only had to pin a miniature version to their shirts. After some arguing to no avail with the administrator in charge, I just switched roses with this girl whose rose head fell off. So I walked in the procession with a stem. Lovely.

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