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VapoRub
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EDNOS = Eating Disorder Not Otherwise Specified, for the curious.
It could be a combination of different attributes from anorexia, bulimia, compulsive over eating, and even eating ice. With that out of the way, here is my problem:

Have had my EDNOS for about a year now. Not an on and off case, it has been very stable as far as this goes. I am considered a "purging anorexic". Ive done my homework in eating disorders and Ive found this one to be less common than regular anorexia or bulimia... but with the highest death rate of the three.

I have experience heart problems because of this, however; I could never admit even to my doctor that this was the cause and sweared that I was a healthy eater.

When I first began, I weight 187 lbs.
With in a month, I was down to 160. I was thrilled. Over the year I have lost and I am now 145. Still overweight, but not nearly how I was.
My body is feeling the effects of all this stress- my hair is thinning, my nails are very brittle, dry skin..etc.

I can think of nothing but my body.. And how I hate it. I often have trouble concentrating in class because I am so afraid the people around me are scrutinizing my smallest imperfections. I have missed days of school simply I felt "too ugly" to get out of bed. It's truly miserable. I've decide after a year of limiting my calories to ungodly amounts and purging even the smallest meals..I want it to stop.

The general response has been to tell my parents or go to a doctor. The idea is horrifying. I have shared many problems but I am concerned about this one. My dad I believe would be sincere, but not understand. My mother I often her making fun of and criticizing those who have eating disorders. Claiming that "all they need to do is eat a cracker" or that she'd give them a shot to relax them and they would relax and just eat. She's always considered them crazy and believes that ALL people with eating disorders are stick thin. Im afraid of her not believing me, at the least.

The only person I've been able to open up to is my boyfriend. He means the best, tells me I am beautiful and such but he has openly told me he does not understand my situation. He does his best.

I feel like I do need rehab or therapy of some sort. I have searched for local clinics but I have been unsuccessful and only left confused.
If I were to find help- I need suggestions as how to get there without too many people knowing?
If possible, I dont think I'd like my parents to know.

I appologize for writing a book. I know I am not the only one who has been through this and any help is appreciated. <3

[ 09-02-2006, 06:48 PM: Message edited by: VapoRub ]

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You might want to call the nearest large hospital and find out who specializes in eating disorders. Get a referral from your current doctor. Let the specialist know that you've been purging to lose weight & what not...

A good doctor won't minimize your eating disorder - and they'd be able to refer you to other specialists, whether it's counseling or seeing a nutritionist.

You don't need to tell your parents, by any means, but you shouldn't predicate your actions on what they're going to think. Get help first. Then deal with your parents later. If they've not been observant of the fact that you're dealing with something rough like this, or if they're dismissive, that's ultimately their problem.

How tall are you? You're probably at a healthy weight right now, since most American women weigh around 140-150. You should - and can - get yourself in the mindset that your weight is healthy, but the means of losing weight weren't... and you're on the right track by actively working to make this situation better.

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Thanks for the response. =] I'm going to put in a call to North Oaks later tonight. I understand not predicting my parent's reactions, you're right. It just seems frightening.

I am only 5'3 right now and most of my friends this height are much smaller than I am. However, I'll run my weight and height through a BMI calculator and check. I've been needing to do that as it is.

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VapoRub-

It may also be helpful to start looking at your HEALTH, as opposed to your weight. Weight can be a very dubious number, just the same- while BMI is an alright way to see what general area you're in, it doesn't take a lot of factors into account, such as muscle weight, bone structure, and general body physique (ie, women who naturally have wider hips or wider shoulders or a wider chest are naturally going to carry for weight than those with a different frame)

So, just because your friends may be smaller in size, that doesn't mean YOUR size is unhealthy.

So, my best recomendation would be to STOP focusing on weight and size entirely - see your doctor, get some recomendations and start tackeling your eating disorder, because your health comes FIRST, and after you've tackled that, then you're going to be in a better position to figure out what nutrition and what level and sorts of physical activity are going to be best for you to stay the healthiest you can be.

Asking for help for an eating disorder takes HUGE courage and concern for your own well-being, and it's so great to hear that you're ready to start doing that, hon. Best thoughts and wishes with you, keep us posted on how it's going!

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Your BMI is 25.7 - which puts you very, very slightly in the overweight range. (A BMI of 25 and over is considered overweight).

Remember that you CAN be slightly overweight and still be perfectly healthy. And it doesn't matter if your friends are smaller! If you develop good eating/exercise habits, you're much more healthy than some of the thin girls you might see at school. That's not to say that thin girls aren't healthy; but it's true that many teenagers don't eat as well as could & don't exercise as efficiently as they could either.

Also, remember that people carry weight differently, depending on their level of physical fitness and muscle mass.

Considering that you've been through a lot emotionally and physically, you should probably back off on the idea of "dieting" for now and concentrate on lifestyle changes that allow you to eat the amount of (healthy) food that satisfies you.

Do you exercise? Incorporating something as small as a 30-minute walk per day can make a HUGE difference in how you feel physically, and how you perceive your body.

[ 09-02-2006, 07:35 PM: Message edited by: kitka ]

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(Also remember that the BMI is NOT one of the best indicators of what ones' ideal weight should be, as it does not take body frame and other factors into account. Just because your BMI says you're overweight, that does not make it so.)
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Yeah, forgot about the frame issue; many of the infantrymen I know are considered overweight, but that's because their high muscle mass is registered as pure weight on a BMI test.
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That's true. I overlooked the the frame issue as well. I've found an inpatient clinic specializing in Eating Disorders and overall lifestyle changes in New Orleans. I'm considering admitting there for awhile and then follow up sessions. This seems the best for me- but it DOES require telling my parents.

I've decided to keep up an online journal starting tomorrow to keep everyone interested updated. Also, at my next scheduled check-up Ill be sure to ask my doctor about my appropriate weight range.

On the exercise: (other than self-unduced vomitting) my usual form of purging is exercising if not over-exercising considering my usual intake- when I am not fasting- of around 800 - 1,100 calories.

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