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Uhohh
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On Saturday night, I had sex with my boyfriend for the first time. We were safe, in that we used a condom. I checked the expiry date of it before and we were completely fine! But, the next morning I was thinking about it and I realised I'd had that condom in my handbag for quite a few months. It was in a pocket to the side, but I'd also been putting in and taking out things like keys into the same pocket. I asked my boyfriend whether there were any tears and was relieved when he told me no, but I can't help but feel worried! What do you think the chances are that the condom failed, even though we used it correctly and it was in date? I'm worried it failed, and now I'm stressing out about getting my period, which is due in around a week. Please reply, I really need some honest advice rather than my friends telling me I'll be fine just to make me feel better!
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Sam W
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Hi uhoh,

As long as the condom did not break or come off, you can assume it did it's job in preventing pregnancy.

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To add to what Sam has said, if it maybe puts your mind at rest now or in future, in the majority of cases, if a condom breaks, it really breaks. If they have been weakened in an area and break, they tend to split much further than the original tear. This may seek like a silly suggestion but if you can pick up another free one or have one handy, try taking it out and experimenting with what it takes to break it. Stick a pin in it then stretch it. Or stretch it then stick a pin in it. Think about sticking a pin in a blown up balloon- latex stretched over air rather than latex stretched over a penis- if you stick a pin in it, the whole thing shatters. You can't miss a balloon bursting. I don't want to say that you don't need to take care of your condoms- you absolutely should and it seems like you do know that anyway- but condoms can withstand a fair amount and are very well tested at high pressures. Hope you're feeling a bit less anxious about the whole thing.

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