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gilang5
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I always use condom in a year of my relationship without worry. Until lately I just found out there are so many story in the internet about condom failure. It clearly makes us paranoid now. It doesn't sound like they are telling the lies. What should we do now? my gf cannot take the pill, so condoms are our only option. We want to wait another 3 years until we are married.
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Robin Lee
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Hi Gilang5,

As we discussed in a previous conversation, a person will know that a condom has failed if they know what to look for.

Do you feel like you know how to use condoms correctly?

Here is an article to read through to check that out:
Condom Basics: A User's Manual

In terms of what you and your girlfriend should do, you have a couple of options. The pill and condoms aren't the only forms of contraception available. Is your girlfriend able to speak with her healthcare provider about other options that would work better for her than the pill?

You also have the option of not engaging in sexual activity that can lead to pregnancy until you're both ready for a possible pregnancy. It's always okay to stop a sexual activity, even if you've already been engaging in it.

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It is true that condoms can fail sometimes. However, if a condom fails, it is usually because it wasn't stored or used correctly. If a condom is stored and used correctly, there's only a very small chance of failure. You can find out more about condoms here: Condoms and how to use them here: Condom Basics: A User's Manual

There are lots of different methods of contraception, so if your girlfriend can't take the pill, it's very likely that there is another method she can use if she wants to. We have lots of information about different contraception methods here: Birth Control Bingo!

If it's very important to someone that they don't become pregnant, we recommend using two methods of contraception. With two methods correctly used, the chance of pregnancy is very, very small. If someone still feels uncomfortable with a very very small risk, we would suggest not taking the risk at all and not having the kinds of sex that can cause pregnancy.

How about you and your girlfriend read about other possible methods of contraception and see if they are accessible to you and if you want to use them, and then decide if you feel comfortable or not with a very tiny risk of pregnancy?

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Thanks for the information about condom basics.

This month we had intercourse with condom on 8th November (I am sure I do it correctly; we saw the semen still on the tip of condom), her first day of last period was 21st October. Estimated next period is today or tomorrow. But she dont have any feeling that the period will come soon. Should I worry?

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Hi Gilang5,

Since your girlfriend's period isn't even late yet, it doesn't sound like there's anything to worry about at this point.

It's worth worrying when something happens to worry about, not before. [Smile]


The way someone feels before her period isn't always going to be the same, just as their period might not always come on the same day.

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Maybe it is a bit late to tell, but my girlfriend had her period on 17th November

I can also tell that condoms are really work, but after we talked about this we will be practicing abstinence from now on, hope it will be the best for us

Thanks for all the support Scarleteen, really appreciate it [Smile]

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You're welcome.

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