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MaddleyLove
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heya guys [Smile]

soo todays the day i *may* get the implant. im just a little concerned about the pregnancy test that proceeds it..:/ i know according to scarleteen i havent had a risk, but i havent got my period yet, although ive got my usual PMS symptoms [Frown]
my bf is coming with me, so thats something i suppose [Smile]
wish me luck!!

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Good luck, MaddleyLove! [Smile] You must be excited about the implant! I've heard great things about it!

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thanks copper! [Smile]

long story short- didnt happen. stayed for an hour (walk-in app) but there were loads of appointments before me, ad i got in and the woman said 'i see youve already had a consultation- lets get you booked in' so basically we waited an hour for her to tell us that -.- aah well, its booked for the 24th, so thats something i suppose [Smile] also was comforting to overhear that everyone else seemed to be getting the implant too [Razz]

one thing... she asked if we were having sex, and i said not intercourse, and she said good [Razz] do you think my answer was clear enough in saying we are having other kinds of sex but not intercourse? she wasnt worried, so i figured i didnt need to be either, just seeing what you guys thought [Smile]

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I think she said that because of exactly what we keep trying to tell you here: she was asking if you had had any pregnancy risks. You said no intercourse, so she was able to easily know you had not had those risks. [Smile]

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haha okay, thanks for clearing that up [Smile]

the counsellings going well; ive had two sessions now, and I was really surprised to see how my thought patterns actually do fit into those common with anxiety [Razz] however, it is hard, facing my thoughts and feelings, and there's been a lot of tears [Frown] but it can only be a good thing that I'm finally releasing those feelings, right? [Smile]

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Hi Maddley,

I'm glad to hear that counselling is treating you well. My experience has certainly been that diving into heavy stuff like anxiety can be intense and cause a lot of tears but that the effort really does pay off.

When I was initially diagnosed with anxiety issues, I felt kind of bad about it at first, but then I realized it was a way to make sense out of a lot of things that had been hard for me for years, and that putting a name to the issue was the first step in finding ways to deal with it.

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Hi Molias [Smile]

Yeah, I totally get what you're saying about it, its really hard to face up and especially to ADMITTING to how I feel about certain issues, particularly given I'm normally a very private person and suddenly I'm opening up to a stranger, its all new to me [Smile]

Did you find you started to make sense of things and open up about things that were waay back in your past which you wouldn't have thought at the time were to do with anxiety? [Smile]

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Oh, I absolutely did. I was able to pinpoint specific moments where I realized "oh, that was me having a panic attack, I had no idea what I was feeling at the time" and reframing a lot of my interactions with other people as being related to pretty intense social anxiety.
That understanding helped me put a lot of my past into perspective, and I also feel that being aware of my anxiety and how my brain tends to react to things has actually cut WAY down on the amount I feel. In general I would consider myself "moderately anxious" now, but for a lot of my life I was very anxious.

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I still haven't got my period...getting a bit concerned now... got all the usual PMS symtpoms but still no period...:/
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heya... sorry to post again... but I need to talk to someone...
last year around November I had a cycle which lasted around 50 days due to anxiety... do I count this as when my period is late this time? its day 34 and no sign so far- got PMS symtpoms but im really really worried, they could be pregnancy symptoms :'( tried talking to my bf, but hes sure we haven't had any genital contact, weve had none that ive noticed anyway...please help :'(

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Have you written down the start dates for your periods for, say, the last six months? If so, could you share them?

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October 2012-4th
November 2012- 25th
December 2012- 30th
January 2013- 24th
Feb 2013- 26th
March 2013- 27th [Smile]

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So, your cycle really isn't all that regular in its patterns, and it looks like 32 or 33 days isn't at all unusual for you, so 34 would fall into that pattern.

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It's only since October that sometimes its been a little crazy, which coincides with my anxiety issues emerging [Frown]
My mum keeps asking me if I've got it, I feel so guilty saying no, she knows nothing about what I've done with my boyfriend :'(

earlier on last year it varied from 31-37 days... is my cycle really not very regular?

oh, and one more clarification- ive seen the new article on the repro depot section, and in it it says dry humping doesn't present a risk unless there is accidental fluid transfer- after my bf ejaculated, he put his boxers on and went to the bathroom to clean up. he wipped, then gave me some tissue. a few minutes later I sat on his crotch area naked, but he had his boxers on. is there any way that his semen could have passed through the fabric? im abit concerned bc in the article it also states that if you wear thing garments then fluid could seep through. was that possible from what I described?

thanks for your help, just feeling abit insecure and vulnerable atm about this [Frown]

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Sounds like your boyfriend cleaned up, so that wouldn't count as fluid transfer. Hav you been able to get any tips from your therapy sessions on how to manage your anxiety between sessions?

Also, sending multiple posts with nothing in them will not facilitate a faster response. [Smile]

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yeah, sorry about that, I wanted to edit my first post, but pressed the quote button instead by mistake [Razz]

I've been given lots of info about breathing, thought processes and a relaxation CD which I plan to try out tomorrow, but I'm still in the early stages, hopefully next time we will start to tackle these 'toxic thoughts' [Smile] I just feel abit lonely and scared atm, with my period not being here [Frown]

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I've seen in another post that symptoms such as tender breasts attributed to pregnancy would not be showing up in two weeks...mine have been hurting ever since the later half of april, around when I had manual and oral sex that has got me concerned... these cant be pregnancy symtpoms if theyre showing up within about 2/3 weeks can they? still no period [Frown]
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You're not pregnant, Maddley.

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Then where's my period? :'(

I think I may test tomorrow.

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If you're concerned about your period, maybe it's time to see your healthcare provider again?

As Heather said, you're not pregnant, so that's not what is going on here.

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I think I am going to test, I need to know either way.
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I want to add, even though I think we've already talked about this, that periods can be late or missed for a whole bunch of reasons: pregnancy is but one of them, not the only one nor even the most common one.

For more: M.I.A or, Dude, Where's My Period?

(Obviously, you get to test for pregnancy as often as you like and are able. But as you also know, taking care of that on your own is really all that's left to do about this, beyond perhaps reconsidering, again, if sexual activity of any kind is really the right thing for you.)

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