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Aly kat
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Me and my boyfriend have talked about sex and we both decided although we both want to the possibility of pregnancy no matter how small is not something we want to deal with at this point in our lives the problem is we also should go on the pill to both help lighten my periods (my reasoning) and to be proactive and realistic knowing our horemoans could take over and we could get lost in the moment (something that has almost happene before) and we want to be protected just in case this is even more important to us now that we've had a close friend have a prenancy scare the problem my parents don't approve they don't agree with anything that involves me and the chance of sex they don't care if I'm trying do what Ibelieve is best for me and MY body in the event somthing does happen I really believe it's whats best for me but Ican't convince them what should I do?? any advice at all is welcome.
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Aly kat
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to clarify we decided to wait but want the birth control anyways as a precaution
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Heather
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In most areas, minors don't need a parent's permission to obtain contraception. So, if a young person wants that to be private from parents, or wants/needs a method but parents or guardians won't okay it, that doesn't usually have to be a barrier.

Mind, hormones can't take people over. Really. They just don't have that kind of power. If and when people make impulsive sexual choices, they are still making choices and are still in control of their actions. Poor hormones, always getting blamed for the things people choose to do. [Razz]

And I'd say that unless -- at any age -- we feel strongly we and any partners can't be in control of themselves with sex and sexual choices, then choosing to engage in sex probably isn't a great idea, for a whole bunch of reasons, not just because of pregnancy or STI risks. For instance, that's a pretty huge emotional safety issue for everyone. So, that might be something to think and talk more about, no matter what.

But all the same, if you want a method of contraception, for now or later, that's likely within your reach.

So, did you want to try and tell your parents and do this with them in terms of what you would ideally want, or would you prefer to seek this out on your own?

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Aly kat
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I've talked to my mom and she's against it. I also didn't mean ncomplete lack of control so much as letting things happen me and my boyfriend feel ready (we evev used your chcklist in the past) emotioally and boundry wise however want to wait since we are not prepared to deal with an unwanted pregnancy however we know realistically that our plans to wait could change very quickly which is why we want me on the pill. since I can't drive it's harder to obtain birth control and my mom is very against it so I just feel kind of low on options
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Robin Lee
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Glad to hear you've found the checklist helpful.

It sounds like you're saying you'd like to be able to access contraception in spite of your mother's objections.

Your option is to find a health care provider who will then sit down with you and discuss your options. We can help you do this.

It also occurs to me that Condoms
are an easily accessible birth control option that you and your boyfriend could both keep on hand in case you do make the last-minute decision to have intercourse.

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