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So I have a question. So my male partner and I (I am female) have decided we want to have intercourse soon.
I want to be very very protected from unwanted pregnancy (we are both STD/STI free).
However, I am going out of the country in eight months, and I'll be gone for five months, so I don't want to have to worry about trying out a new hormonal method before this big transition (the adjustment associated with getting on and off a hormonal method is going to be too much, I feel. Like, this is not the time to experiment with a new hormonal method!). Plus, I have had bad experiences in the past with hormonal methods. For example, with the pill, I had really sore breasts all the time, mood swings, and weight gain. Not to mention you're automatically at risk for blood clots, heart attacks, and stroke with any hormonal method! That just doesn't sound safe or worth it to me. And I have been down that road with the pill many times (I have been on and off it four times and I think I'm done with its ups and downs).
So, I need some advice/ opinions. How can my partner and I safely move forward in our sex lives? My partner has already expressed that no matter what method I choose, he is ALWAYS going to use a condom.
Also... something else I have a question about that affects this hormonal versus non- hormonal decision: I have been considering a hormonal method somewhat because he and I like to make out naked and I had an incident recently where I took Plan B because his penis brushed up against me during one of these make outs. I freaked out because I heard you can get pregnant from precum. He assured me he had no precum on his penis, but I thought sometimes it's hard for guys to tell, and I didn't want to take any chances. I know the risks are really small, but I was thinking that if I don't go on a hormonal method, then he and I are going to have to give up naked make outs, because I don't want to feel afraid of getting pregnant from fooling around. If I went on a hormonal method, I probably wouldn't be as afraid of this while making out. Is this a legitimate concern, or is it safe to make out naked? If I don't go on hormonal, then I was thinking I could just make out with my underwear on, so that there's a barrier between me and precum, or even ejaculate. But making out naked is more fun... Also, with a non-hormonal method, we'd have to wash our hands more often if we're fooling around, which sounds like a hassle, and again, I probably wouldn't care as much about washing my hands if I were on a hormonal method. But then I think of the pros versus cons, and I'm not willing to go through all those negative body changes associated with a hormonal method right before this big change of going out of the country. Or am I being too cautious as it is regarding fear of getting pregnant this way? Do I really have to give up naked make outs if I choose a non-hormonal method? If so, does that sound like it's worth the sacrifice? Any recommendations regarding methods?

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Hey whatwhatwhatrudoing1122: before we get too into responding I want you to take a look through something, then we can break down some of your questions after you've had time to read and think about it: Birth Control Bingo

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Hey. I've been reading through Birth Control Bingo, even before you posted that. [Smile]
Right now, I've narrowed down my choices to: the Diaphragm or Sponge, or the mini pill.

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