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patteLePugh
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My boyfriend and I want to make love. I need some information about the following:
Can I get condoms under 18.
What kind.
What lube.
What is best for Gay sex.

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Heather
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There is no "gay" sex. In other words, the way people who are homosexual have sex tends to be the same ways people who are not do, save that same-sex partners can't do penis-in-vagina intercourse.

Can you be more clear on what you mean?

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robot_on_fire
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yes you can get condoms under 18 , there is no age restriction for that.
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cthulhu_hungers
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Can I get condoms under 18.

Yes, there is no age restrictions for buying condoms. Many places will also give them to you for free, such as LGBT centers, student health centers, and Planned Parenthood. However, most sex stores require an id and don't allow anyone under 18 inside.

What kind.

All condoms need to pass a strength test before they go to market. Therefore, the type of condoms you get should depend on your personal preference and the type of lube you use. There are four types: polyurethane, latex, Polyisoprene and female. A female condom would go inside the receptive partner rather than on the penetrative partner, and despite it's name also works for anal sex. Female condoms are made of latex. Avoid desensitizing ones. Anal Tissue is delicate and easily torn; you need to be able to feel that so you can stop before you do too much damage. Many online sex stores sell condom variety packs so you can try out many different types and find the one that fits you best.

What lube.

Generally something gel-like or thicker than the average lube, because the butt doesn't self-lubricate. Many lubes are formulated specifically for anal sex, but you probably won't find them in your local CVS. Latex condoms cannot be used with oil-based lube, so no crisco, cold cream, or vaseline with latex condoms. They also tend to absorb liquids, so you might need to reapply lube when using them. Polyurethane and polyisoprene can be used with oil-based lube. water-based lube will loose it's moisture so you may need to add water or more lube to it. silicone lube lasts longer, but it more expensive. Oil-based lube lasts longer and is cheap, but isn't compatible with latex condoms and requires more expensive condoms.

What is best for Gay sex.

Anal sex for gay men is like vaginal sex for straight women; it is the most risky type of sex and you should think long and hard, and be prepared to have it, instead of just jumping in. You may not be able to get pregnant from it, but unless care is taken, you can injure yourself and anal sex is a very effective vector for STIs. Are you ready for anal sex or just eager for it? You can engage in handjobs, oral, and rolling around if you want to have sex and feel close, and if you do want to experiment with anal, you can use toys, rim each other, finger each other, engage in frottage around the thigh and butt area, ect.

Anal sex is the marathon, and you need to do some warmups before you can run the race. The first few times, the receptive partner should use just fingers and toys to get used to the feeling of something inside him and moving in him, without the sex ending in anal sex. If you aren't already tested, get tested. When you both feel ready, make sure to use plenty of lube, plenty of foreplay. Go slow. Make sure you occasionally check to condom to see that it hasn't broken or slipped off and to reapply lube if necessary. The penetrative partner should pull out when they are still hard, holding the base of the condom so that no sperm gets inside the receptive partner.

source: babeland, http://www.avert.org/condom.htm

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Heather
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Hey cthulhu_hungers: a lot of this is great info, but if and when a user posts, we ask them a question for more information, and they didn't come back to answer it, you can be pretty sure they won't see any additions to their posts, especially if a couple months or longer have passed.

Just FYI, as well, the FC -- female condom -- is not a latex condom. It's made of nitrile. So, it's totally suitiable for those who don't want latex, or who have an allergy or sensitivity.

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