My boyfriend and i have had sex a lot and we always use a condom. I started the pill but i havent told him cuz i dont want him to think that he doesnt have to use a condom. i havent been taking the pills on an exact time usually its between 9-10. well i was at his house and his parents werent home so we went to his room. we werent using a condom at first cuz it felt better to him without one and we couldnt find one. He kept pulling out cuz he didnt want to bust in me. we searched his drawers and we found one but as we were doing it he pulled out and noticed the condom was broke but he pulled out right before he busted cuz he knew "it felt to good for some reason" im wondering if there is a chance of prenancy cuz that was my last day on my period and i still had one more reminder pill that night to take??? please help
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You should use condoms, in addition to the pill, since condoms can prevent STD's; the pill won't. (Using the reason "they don't feel good, or feels better not to use one" sounds like BS to me. There are different sized condoms, and if smaller ones are cutting of circulation or something, he can get bigger ones. But it sounds like a load of sugar in my opinion)
Also: check your pill package for how long your particular brand takes to become effective. We always recommend waiting for a full pack (that's the three weeks of hormone pills and the week of placebos) before counting on it for birth control, but it's possible for it to become effective before then. We just never ever recommend that you count on it.
If it's been less than 100 hours since the risk, you can still take Emergency Contraception if you don't want to get pregnant.
As an aside, being honest with your partner is always a good thing. If you feel that you should use condoms as well as birth control, that's really a decision he should respect--it's not entirely up to him to decide that you being on the pill is enough. Jam is right that condoms are generally a good idea, since they lessen the chance of pregnancy even more and help to prevent STDs. But in order to use them correctly, you have to use them every time.
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It's also worth mentioning that if you don't think your partner can or will respect your birth control and safer sex needs, might be time to reconsider having that person as a partner.
If you're close to him and have a good realtionship, be honest and give him a chance to support you, eh? if he doesn't, then rather than thinking it means you have to battle with him all the time about going without a condom, see it instead as a signal that he's either not ready for partnered sex, or needs to be informed he NEEDS to accept birth control + safer sex practice.
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