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OliveCon
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So my role-model, (fictional) Tony Stark/Iron Man is very special to me, and has taught me so much. I admire his heroism, bravery, loyalty, and intelligence. However, he's often talked about as a sexist character and perhaps someone a young girl should not look up to.

Some examples of this are his womanizing, and sleeping with women based on their looks, sexualization of women at his expo's, and objectification of women in general.

Is my role-model bad? It get's me down to know that my role model is often thought to be anti-feminist and sexist, as those are two things i'm very strongly against.

Thoughts? And does anyone else have a role-model (fictional or otherwise) that might be considered bad? Does Tony Stark being my role model make me sexist?

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Molias
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Hi OliveCon,

I don't think that admiring anyone, fictional or not, has to mean that you admire or approve of 100% of the things they do. You can be excited about someone's artistic skill or cooking or bravery but still think some of their actions or views aren't always great. People are complicated!

A lot of people who get really into fandom of various types wrestle with this issue, and there's a lot of pretty fantastic feminist discussion/critique of pop culture out there if you're interested. My take is that it's fine to love things with problematic elements, but it's also important to acknowledge them.

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Sam W
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Hi OliveCon,

I agree with Molias that it's rare to find a person (fictional or otherwise) who is 100% unproblematic. An article you might find really helpful is this piece on how to be a fan of problematic things.

http://www.socialjusticeleague.net/2011/09/how-to-be-a-fan-of-problematic-things/

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OliveCon
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Thanks for your answers guys! I read the article Samw, and it makes sense. I guess it is really hard for a character to be unproblematic, or even for a person, because everyone has flaws, and nobody is a perfect author.
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