Here is some background - I have been noticing the unpleasant smell for the past few years with no other symptoms, so I know it is not an infection, and I only recently (in October) became sexually active. I never thought the smell was that bad, and thought it was just the way that it was, as I realize that the vagina isn't supposed to naturally smell like a rose garden.
Unfortunately, my boyfriend thinks otherwise. He says there has to be something that can make it better, and our sex life has faltered a LOT since he mentioned this to me. I was already self conscious about my body, and he wanted to try oral sex for the first time on me, but said he didn't want to unless this problem got better. And now, anything that has to do with sex makes me feel uncomfortable, because I feel embarrassed and like he is judging me, even though he swears I shouldn't be and that it wasn't that big of a deal. I feel that if this doesn't resolve, things are only going to get worse in this area.
I have researched many things that are said to make the problem better, but I wanted Scarleteen's opinion, as I was a little confused. Probiotics - yes or no? And if so, what kind? There are so many options! Using Tea Tree Oil as a wash for that area - good or bad? Any other remedies that will help solve this problem?
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If you've been noticing the smell for years, and you haven't had any symptoms (itching, painful urination, oddly colored discharge), then you're probably correct in thinking that this is probably just how your vaginal area smells. Beyond making sure you wash it while you're showering (don't use harsh soap on it, there isn't anything else you should be doing to keep it clean.
I'm sorry your boyfriend was insensitive about this. Am I correct in assuming that he isn't super sexually experienced? Because it sounds to me like he has an idea in his head about how vaginas are supposed to smell that isn't realistic. When you mentioned that this makes you feel like you're being judged, did he apologize?
You say you would like to resolve this issue. Given what I've said about there not being a "magic bullet" that will somehow make your vaginal area smell different, what would you like this resolution to include?
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Yes, I am his first sexual partner, as he is mine. He did apologize, but also said that he wouldn't want to do anything of that nature for me unless it got better - which made me think that if that's just the way it smells, then too bad for me? I don't know, I guess that just upsets me, and he doesn't understand why. I don't know if I'm being petty, or what, but we have been having a lot of issues sexually lately - he has been having some problems with ED for the past few months, and really the only sexual stimulation I have received is manual stimulation that I can't really orgasm from, so maybe you can understand my frustration? He receives oral from me frequently, and the whole time I am just frustrated, but trying not to say anything about it, because I know that his ED is not his fault, and I don't want to make him feel worse about himself, but I am just getting more and more frustrated as time passes....
I was just wondering if maybe you had some suggestions of remedies for me to try on the off chance that this isn't the way that it is? I am highly doubting that it's just going to magically go away with some probiotics or something, but I want to at least tell him I tried.
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