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scarecrow16
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I have been with my current girlfriend for almost 2 years at this point, and we plan I making a future out of our relationship. But she has a terrible view of her self image, and constantly kind of pits herself down. The hardest part about it is, I've noticed that she's gained as decent amount of weight. I've been nothing but supportive of her, and honestly will not love her any less because of her body, but her and I both would like to see her get back to the size she was when we started dating. She lacks the discipline to actually change it, and just complains about it. How do I help to motivate her to want to take control of her body? I've already suggested that we work out together but she shot that down.
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Edith_*
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Hi Scarecrow!

You know? Bodies rarely stay the same through the years. As we get older it's normal for our bodies to change of shape. Just the way it is.

Personally, I don't think that losing weight equals having control of your body. So I don't think I could give you much advice on that.

But what I can tell you is that, a body is way more than just a size or a shape. I hear you saying you have been nothing but supportive with her, and that is really good [Smile] . But what if you both focus more in healthy habits and a better self image rather than droping a couple of pounds?

IOW, what about talking with her about what does she need in order to feel better in the body she already has?

I think you and her will find this article interesting:

http://www.scarleteen.com/article/body/the_scarleteen_doit

Hope it helps! [Smile]

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