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The Confused One
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I'm female and 19.

1. I found out what smegma is. While I'm not worried about it, I find that they tend to... look ugly... And I'm just wondering, any advice on getting rid of it easier? I don't know why, but warm water doesn't really help. Sometimes, I have to scrape the smegma off with fingernails O.O And I'm pretty sure using fingernails is very dangerous...

2. I've been masturbating for a long long long time. I've never really questioned it until recently. Everytime I orgasm, I feel my bladder filling up, and then I'd have to go to the toilet. Doesn't matter if I went before masturbating. If I went before though, the urge to go isn't as strong. I've read that 'squirting' or female ejaculation, isn't very common. And usually out of a person's control... I disregarded the idea of me being able to for quite a while. But now I'm not so sure. Because I've been masturbating since I was really young, this feeling of my bladder filling up is sort of... normal to me. As if all orgasms feel this way. Does it? Or am I really capable of 'squirting' and I haven't done so only because I've trained myself not to?

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Smegma isn't a they, so I'm a little confused. It's much like vaginal discharges, but particularly, is just a collection if discharges and old skin cells.

Typical cleaning of the genitals should take care of smegma just fine, and in places where it's a bit more tacky, just using a fingertip to move it off the body should work.

If you're finding that your genitals have fluids that take more than that to clean, I'd check in with your healthcare provider to find out what's going on.

Your bladder can't fill up unless you fill it up. In other words, only when we put fluids into our bodies can we fill out bladders. What I suspect you're actually feeling is just pressure on your bladder from the muscles surrounding it, muscles which tend to fill with blood (so they swell) with arousal and get more active during any kind of sexual activity or response.

Ejaculation is something different entirely, and I'm not sure how it relates to your question here?

If you're asking if you can, we can't know. It's thought that most people certainly have the capacity, though in people with vaginas versus those with penises, some sexologists and medical folks have theorized that for some people who never experience that, or rarely do, that might not just be about them not having the kind of stimulus that gets them there, or not digging that kind of stimulus, but have something to do with the size of the glands which produce ejaculation.

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I don't know. They, it, 'the white stuff', just seems stubborn? Or maybe I'm just not being thorough enough. I only just discovered that it's called smegma yesterday XD I never really bothered about it as it has never caused any trouble. Was just wondering if I was doing something wrong by using fingernails... As for seeing a doctor/healthcare provider... well, still having problems with parents on that -.-

Hmm. Well, from what I read, the ejaculation fluid goes into the bladder before erm... 'squirting'. That's why I was a bit unsure as to how any of this works. I've gone to the toilet immediately before and immediately after a few times. Both times, liquid does come out. And I don't drink as much water as I'm supposed to. So it can't be me drinking too much, can it?

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You shouldn't need to use your fingernails. However, if you haven't been doing basic hygiene with your genitals, sometimes it can accumulate and get tough to remove for some folks, and then, fingernails aren't the answer, a healthcare provider is.

While information on ejaculation for folks with vaginas is still a bit sketchy, it has been established for some time that it isn't about fluid in the bladder.

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I'll try to be more thorough [Big Grin]

Then... how does female ejaculation work? o.O

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Check it: Squirt: On Female Ejaculation

This piece also talks about some of the anatomy mentioned in that one: With Pleasure: A View of Whole Sexual Anatomy for Every Body

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Oh, thanks!

So in theory, I AM holding back and controlling myself? I was always afraid of soaking the bed [Big Grin] Sounds very messy lol

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In theory. Not all people with vaginas ejaculate, and not all release a large amount of fluid if they do.

If you're worried that you could make a mess, putting a towel down should take care of that. [Smile]

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Might have to explain why theres a wet towel to my parents though XD

I'll just... wait... for when I'm living alone... to er... experiment [Big Grin]

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Honestly, it would be such a tiny amount of clear fluid, it's unlikely they'd notice.

In porn, we see a lot of water gushing out, but this is faked, as in reality ejaculation is just a tiny amount.

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lol. I'll keep that in mind xD

I have another question now. The vagina cleans itself pretty much 24/7, right? It's why we have discharge and everything, I'm guessing. What about when one gets an infection? Does the vagina still cleans itself? If it does, will orgasming without touching anywhere near the vulva (over cloth, like panties or something) help speed up the process? Because I know that the vagina creates more fluid when aroused. Wouldn't this be helping in clearing out whatever bad stuff?

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Yes, the vagina is pretty much self-cleaning, not just with discharges coming out, but with the PH balance it maintains.

I don't think there's been any research into what you're asking about. When one gets a vaginal infection, the healthy balance of the vagina is thrown off, and usually needs something to bring it back into balance.

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But there has been many cases of women leaving the infection alone and having it pass after a while, right?
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With most infections? No, I would not say that there have. We also know that in undeveloped nations without adequate women's healthcare, there are often high rates of more serious infections and healthcare conditions expressly because of untreated infections, so.

A good rule of thumb with a yeast or bacterial infection when you don't have easy access to healthcare is that if you have one that doesn't clear up after a period, it's probably not going to, and you need to get yourself some healthcare.

But ideally? If and when you have an infection, you need to get that care, period. Especially if you're not very, very sure of what kind of infection it is OR if it's stuck around for more than a few days.

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Noted. I sometimes get random ideas about random things xD
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Sorry about this being more than a couple [Big Grin] I've been having a lot of questions running through my head for ages and I've never gotten around to having them answered... (and usually forget about them shortly after lol)

So I found out that bumps on the areolas are montgomery glands. Also found out that they are there to help lubricate and stuff. But are whatever they secrete supposed to dry up and become hard until they look more like pimples with hard stuff in them?

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Are you saying that they were secreting fluid and now they're not? Or is this how they've always looked? Just having a little trouble understanding what you're asking so need a bit more information. [Smile]

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Well, I'm not really sure how they work in the first place. I've no idea if they secrete fluid or not. I just know that whenever I happen to brush against my areolas, I feel sort of like really tiny stones? And this makes me pinch them. And hard stuff that look like the erm, sebum? you get when you pop an old pimple comes out.

I know it's not a good thing to be pinching these glands, but I can't help it when I get worried that these glands are clogged up o.o

Yes, they've always been like this.

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True; it's not good to pinch them.

It's normal for areolas to be bumpy like that.

If you want to double-check that they're okay, you can talk to a doctor about it next time you have a routine visit...but if your body has always been a certain way, that is quite often the way it's supposed to be. [Smile]

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See, I don't mind them being bumpy. Problem is when they feel like they have stones stuck in them. As for routine checkup... I don't get routine checkups ._. It's a parents thing.

I guess if they are meant to be like that, then all is fine... I'm just worried that whatever these glands secrete (if they're supposed to secrete anything) might be drying up because I'm dehydrated or something

Then again, if they're not supposed to secrete anything... why are these hard stuffs reappearing every few days?

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I have another question about smegma. I remember reading something about smegma being able to collect under the clitoral hood and that it can harden and cause pain. I've been trying to be thorough and so far, I'm good. However, I've also been checking my clitoral hood, because who wants pain at the clitoris?! D:

So anyway, I've noticed that it's a little harder than I expected, to get rid of the smegma under the hood. Probably because my hood isn't... erm... loose? o.o Well, thing is, I have to grip the smegma and pull it out... It usually comes out as a whole piece, no bigger than 1-2mm of course. It's kinda moist mostly, and theres always a pink tint at one end (usually the end that comes out last). It hasn't caused any trouble other than the time taken to carefully grip the smegma. But is this normal?

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I'm not 100% sure but I think that if it smells fine, it doesn't hurt then it's probably ok. The pinkish tint might be a teeny bit of blood that could easily come from scratching against your skin before removing it.

If the main issue is discomfort and it's not painful while it's there and you're happy removing it, I don't think this sounds like you have much to worry about.

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Got it. Just wanna make sure I'm not doing anything wrong, especially since I don't exactly have access to a gyno. Thanks!
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