Why does sexual attraction fade over time? Do we just, 'get used to' people?
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Why do any of our feelings towards people change, you know?
After all, it's not just sexual feelings which can -- it doesn't always, mind you -- change. Our feelings of love can increase or decrease, appear or go away. We can like someone one year and dislike them the next.
The thing is, people change: we don't stay the same through all of our lives, or even minute to minute. So when feelings are about people, we can't expect them to be static, either.
Of course, there's also the matter of what kind of sexuality any of us have. Some of us have a sexuality where novelty -- what's new -- is more exciting, others are the other way round, or for some, that's situational. Some people find familiarity turns them on more than the alternative, other folks, not so much.
In a word: there are so many variables to this! Not sure, when this does happen, we can ever have one big why that isn't very situational.
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