So i have been having a hard time with my self esteem. When ever I look in the mirror all i see is the nasty fat person looking back at me. I am scared to get close to someone because of the fear of being left and being rejected. I am having a hard time. I have been told a lot that I am not pretty enough to be with anyone and that my morals are to high. All i say is no sex before marriege. Fondling and what not is fine once I am comfortable. Do I need to lower my morals to get someone? Do i need to go on a crash diet and not eat anything and purge to get to be pretty so i am able to atract someone?
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Sorry to hear that you're having a rough time lately. I think that considering some of the hard stuff you've been through in the past, it's pretty understandable that feeling good about yourself isn't easy. I'm not sure who has told you about not being pretty enough or having too much morals but those things aren't true. People of all sizes and shapes have great relationships. As well, many people set boundaries around partnerships like 'no intercourse before marriage'- I am sure that you could meet someone like that, if that's what you want. What would you say to your best friend, if she was asking questions like your last two sentences? Would you advise her to starve and purge?
When you get to see a counsellor or therapist, these are all useful things to bring up with them too. Self esteem is something that many of us struggle with from time to time.
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