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lovepink888
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I am going into my second year of college and I am very unhappy with my weight. I lost around 13 pounds my freshman year due playing sports and being extremely busy. My weight was at 120 pounds and I was content with that, but now it seems to be an obsession. I weigh myself 4 to 5 times a day and try to cut back on what I eat. What should I do to get under control again and eat normally to feel good about myself on the inside and out.
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Robin Lee
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HI lovepink888,

I'm sorry to hear that you're struggling so much with this.

A couple of thoughts for you:

Do you have a family member or friend you can trust to support you with this? It would be helpful to you to have someone in your life whom you can trust to support you and help you with any difficult changes you're trying to make.

I would also suggest that you stop weighing yourself so many times a day. For most people, body weight fluctuates throughout the day, so multiple weighings in a day isn't really giving you an accurate sense of what is going on with your body. Do you think that reducing the number of times you weigh yourself is a possibility for you? Again, is there someone in your life you can ask to remind you that you don't need to do that?

It can often be helpful when we're falling into compulsive patterns to have the support and knowledge of a counsellor on your side. Is that a possibility for you?

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I had almost the same experience as you do, Lovepink888. During my freshman year, I lost weight too because I was so busy and also because I was not eating as much or as well as I should have. I am around your weight now; but I also struggle with losing it or not eating more. So you are definitely not alone here, not by a long shot. [Smile]

Perhaps your feeling upset about your weight might be deeper than your weight in general and may be about your body image in particular. That is what it is for me; but I am not trying to make assumptions about you at all - it just might be something to consider. How do you view yourself, and how do you think others view you?

I'd like to add that your weight is on what I believe to be the healthy side of things; and you being active and busy with sports and school will naturally burn off calories. But, since you'll be naturally losing those calories, I think it's important to consider eating breakfast. I was notorious for skipping breakfast at university, so I was far from perfect in that department; but I know from experience that the discomfort you get from not eating is not worth it. You can always grab a half-butter bagel, some fruit and yogurt, or even an apple or a granola bar and stuff them in your pack before you go to class (pack them up the night before if you'll be busy in the morning). Can you eat in class? Eating a granola bar or apple might give you energy and stop your cravings for food after class.

Do you live in residence? My residence had good food, but it would sometimes be difficult for me to have a big meal that was healthy. If need be, take smaller portions if the food isn't very healthy (like mac and cheese), or use their salad bar if you'd like. One other thing I also suggest is those shakes you can buy that are replacements for meals. At least then, you're getting on-the-go nutrition and it will give you the vitamins and minerals you need without slowing down your schedule. [Smile]

I think one big way to get back on track is to also feel better about your body (I'm still working on this, too, so I am in no way saying that this is an easy process!). Once you start to feel good about your weight and your body, getting on track about eating might come easier. What part of your body do you like the best? Think about those favourite things the next time you feel down about yourself.

Eating normally also means having some fat intake, so you can definitely have some cookies or ice cream if you like! I usually have a cookie a day and some random other snacks. I'm obsessed with granola bars (as you can see! [Wink] ), so I go for those too if I want something sweet. Having something sweet every now and then might satisfy your cravings and might also make eating right feel a bit easier. [Smile]

I'm so sorry that you are feeling upset, but I hope you feel better soon! Someone's weight or body is not the be all and end all: their personality and true character are so important. You sound really nice and passionate about what you believe in; so in my opinion, you're already great just the way you are. [Smile]

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-hugs for LovePink888- [Smile] And I echo the sentiments of copper86!


Love for oneself is so awesome, and we all have the power to bring it closer! It takes practice, but as they say "it is totally worth it!". [Wink] [Smile]

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There are things I like about myself and I do try to talk to my family about how Im feeling but they think I'm going to end up killing myself and they just get upset about me and how i feel about myself. I don't think i'll be playing sports this year because i need to add a second minor which is going to put more pressure on me to keep the weight off. My parents also don't seem to want to get me help so this is something I deal with on my own. Thank you WesLuck and Copper 86 for the positive comments. Would any of you recommend going to a nutritionist? or monitor stuff on my own?
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Hey, lovepink888.

I'm sorry to hear that your family has been less than supportive. I think that it would be helpful for you to seek out some professional support. Habits which tend to be compulsive can be very difficult to break or manage on your own. So, no, I don't recommend that you try to monitor it by yourself.

Would you be interested in seeking out the counselling services at your university and see what kind of help they can offer you? It's a place to start.

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I would rather go to an outside source for help instead of my college just because i want to keep school and my social life separate. where would you recommend I go or what kind of specialist should i meet with?
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Sans
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Do you have a doctor whom you see regularly for checkups and such?

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You can make an appointment with your doctor, tell your doctor everything that you have told us here, and request to be directed to a counselor who specializes in helping people who struggle with the issues that you are struggling with.

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"Sneak away, sneak away / If the fate is too sad / You are not a flower of hell / That kind of place... / Don't become lost, don't become lost... / Or you won't be able to grasp the entangled hand / The cry also has a limit...." - Naraku no Hana

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thank you all for your help. I appreciate it!
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Sans
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Your welcome. [Smile] My best wishes to you. Good luck!

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My best wishes too! And:

-hugsforLovePink- [Smile]

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