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copper86
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I've searched through some of the boards, since I know a similar topic has been discussed, but I couldn't find it; so I apologize for the redundancy of this subject matter.

I am a very paranoid person. Lately, I've been getting impatient and even more irrational with my thoughts. When it comes to other people coming to me with their problems, I can usually be helpful and rational; but with my own worries and problems, my rationality doesn't work and my fears spiral to the point that I can't relax (or I can, but not for long).

Does anyone else feel this way? What are some coping strategies that you do to manage your fears or anxieties? I try to distract myself by doing things I like - praying, going for a walk, reading, writing, my favourite shows, or having a wam shower - but eventually those strategies don't work and I find myself too afraid and almost alone (which is, again, irrational). I found that coping with my anxieties were easier while I was at university, since I had homework to do and tests to study for. What ways work best for everyone?

I guess I'm looking for some encouragement and also some new ideas. Thank you for reading this post!

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I appreciated that you answered my topic about anxiety earlier this week. I am still terrified. And I really don't have many solutions. I don't know what to do. All I can do is get tested again ASAP and hope for the best. I am just petrified.

I don't know how to deal with this anxiety besides getting physical proof that I don't have HIV.

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I'm sorry if this post has affected you in any way, samfoxwu. Please remind me: when was the last time you were tested? Do you use condoms for sexual activity? I don't know a lot about HIV, but I think open wounds can be factors because of the virus in the blood. I wish I could tell you to not feel so anxious. What I try to do is just talk to myself rationally and try to at least put my fears into context. Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't, but the relief I do feel afterwards is worth it every time, even if it is temporary.

I'm not sure where you are writing from, but in Canada, we have free help lines for health services. You can call a health service (like Telehealth Ontario) and talk to a nurse about any medical queries you may have. I know they can't diagnose you over the phone, but they can give you pertinent medical advice. I know there are some articles here at Scarleteen about STI's, which would also be very helpful.

Take care, and try not to worry!

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Copper86, I was last tested in February of 2012. Since then I have had two sexual partners. Both claim to have been tested.

The first was tested and had no other sexual contact between the time of his testing and dating me. We never had sexual intercourse—I believe the risk is extremely lowered due to this fact, even if he had been HIV positive, which his testing claimed he wasn't. We did however practice oral sex without condoms.


The second was tested about a year ago and has had one partner other than me since the last time he was tested. He was monogamous with the other partner and seems to be very sure that he is clean. We had vaginal intercourse as well as anal intercourse. Vaginal was protected with condoms but anal was not, which was really stupid of me because you have more of a risk for HIV with anal sex.

I have been trying to put my fears into context but all of my symptoms also fall under acute HIV infection symptoms and it just scares me like crazy. I just don't know what to do.

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I had my first sexual encounter with the second partner about a month ago, and had my last sexual encounter with the first in May.
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Hey Copper! Hang in there, girly! *hug*

Well, normally what I do when I'm stressed is play my violin, hang out with friends, talk to people here like you [Smile] or talk with a best friend of mine (only if I feel comfortable disclosing information, since to be honest I normally don't. I'm pretty sure I have some trust issues).

Do you have anyone in real life that you think you could discuss your issues with?

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Copper: I echo MusicNerd. It seems that these anxieties have become a bit too much for you to handle alone.

Have you considered seeing a mental health professional and possibly undergoing treatment?

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