I'm wondering if anyone here could point me to resources involving body positivity for people who are circumcised, or have undergone other forms of non-consensual genital modification?
I've looked high and low for blogs and articles involving body positivity for people with circumcised penises and can find nothing of the sort. (As far as I can tell, every circumcised penis-owning person on the internet feels badly about being circumcised, hates their parents for allowing it to happen or society for condoning the practice and is either going to undergo, or is undergoing, a foreskin restoration.) I honestly have no idea where to start when it comes to finding body positivity resources for people with other kinds of non-consensually modified genitals - for example, people who have undergone intersex "correction" surgery in early childhood or infanthood.
I'm not asking for pro-circumcision or mutilation screeds. I just want some reassurance that there are people out there who feel like having non-consensually modified genitals hasn't made their genitals (or bodies) less desirable, beautiful, functional, capable of sexual pleasure or worthy of positive feelings than people with non-modified genitals. Because so far I've been able to find nothing but anger, hate, pity, sorrow, self-loathing - and occasionally indifference - but absolutely no body-positivity.
I'm asking because I'm trying to better understand how my boyfriend can be okay - even happy - with having genitals that were modified without his consent. I also want to better understand how anybody, regardless of gender or sex, can feel okay with having non-consensually modified genitals. It's still an alien idea for me (since I'm anti-circumcision and against all forms of nonconsensual genital modification), especially since it seems like there are no good resources out there that deal with this topic.
Thanks in advance for any help or suggestions.
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I am afraid I do not understand your concern. I have a friend who is campaigning against male circumcision because she has research that shows sexual pleasure is reduce for me who are circumcision and that this can lead to painful sex for their partners. I have only ever seen a circumcised penis and non of the men that I've dated seem to feel upset about it. In fact my current boyfriend (works in healthcare) is happy to be circumcised because it makes it easier to be clean. If you are looking for men to write about how much they love their circumcised penis, it will probably be much harder to find than men who hate it because my understanding is that its not something they think about. To them, its normal.
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