I've been with my boyfriend for almost 5 years now, and we're totally happy and comfortable. Our sex life is...good. I love giving him oral, and I love receiving. But for some reason, I feel guilty when I receive oral. I'm not sure why...maybe because he's not being pleased. He hasn't expressed any dislike to giving it. I just have his feeling of guilt..perhaps modesty?
I've also been experimenting with myself lately..and I've found that it's not possibly for me to orgasm without clitoral stimulation..is this normal? Being penetrated feels good, and the mental aspect is more of a turn on than the physical act, if that makes sense. The good feelings from penetration don't build to an orgasm - they're just there.
As a side note - I feel slightly obsessed with sex. I love thinking about it, talking about it, doing it.
Are these findings normal? How can I cope with these difficulties?
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Let's try this: when you're engaging in oral with his penis, are you not being pleased? In other words, I hear you saying you don't think he is when the shoe is on the other foot, but if he's not experiencing pleasure from that activity, why do you think he's choosing to engage in it?
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