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I'm 18 years old and have been sexually active for 3 years with 4 different guys and every single time I do it, it hurts. Fingers and tongue feel fine but when it comes to intercourse I feel like I'm being torn open. They can only go in a little bit and even that small amount feels like its too far. I want to be there for my guy and I feel bad that I can't meet his needs, but its just too painful. I'm 4'11" and 95 pounds so I'm pretty small all around but weren't women's bodies made to fit a penis and then later on a child?? What do I do??
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Genital size really doesn't correspond to body size. And the vagina, particularly, isn't any one static size for anyone, anyway. What size it is -- or, more accurately, how flexible it is -- is usually situational, based on things like relaxation and arousal and comfort, rather than about how a body always is.

Setting aside the issue of presenting any kind of sex as a "need" -- which is really problematic -- have you tried all of the things that typically help with issues like this with intercourse? For example, spending WAY more time with other sexual activities that feel good, even doing some during intercourse? Using extra lubricant? Making sure you feel emotionally relaxed -- not worried about pain or a partner being unsatisfied, for instance -- and also VERY sexually turned on and excited?

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