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katie gurl
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my boyfriend tried eating me & i asked him how it was & to be brutally honest, he said i didn't taste good & that it semlled really bad. any way i can fix this?
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Heather
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You know, we taste how we taste. Unless you have an infection of some kind, what your vulva probably tastes like is a vulva. It's not candy, it's a part of your body, which-- no big shocker here -- is going to taste like a part of our bodies. Genitals tend to taste kind of musky and salty, so if someone is expecting them to taste like candy, they need to adjust their expectations.

Same goes with smells. Healthy vulvas tend to smell like healthy vulvas.

I'm really sorry your boyfriend responded this way. Do you have a sense of what his level of maturity is? In other words, do you think he has the kind of maturity a person needs to be real around intimate parts of someone else's body?

How about education around sexuality and genitals?

Do you think he knew, for instance, that the taste and smell of your vulva would be a lot like the taste and smell of his armpit (which isn't just about your vulva: it's about all our body parts which secrete fluids and are in moist places of our bodies)?

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katie gurl
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he normally is so fine & would just never tell me & keep it to himself, but i felt something off so i made him tell me. & i think he said he realized it wouldn't taste "amazing", but that the smell was extremely distasteful & he asked if i may have an infection because it was not good at all. he said he didn't expect candy, but it wasn't a fishy smell, but slightly less distinct. i know i don't have a yeast infection so what else could it be? i heard birth control makes an odor come from your vagina, is this true?
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Hormonal contraceptives change the environment of the vagina, so the scent may change slightly, but that's usually very subtle, and isn't about "bad" smells. The pill has the same hormones that are already in your body, after all.

Do you have any reason to think you might have an infection? Like, any increased or funny-looking discharge lately? Do *you* feel like the scent of your genitals has changed lately at all, like getting much stronger?

And again, what is this guy's experience like with women's bodies? has he ever had oral sex with another partner before?

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i don't feel there is an infection, but it's been a while (maybe over a year) since i've even smelt something. i don't have any odd discharge. i looked up the effects of a yeast infection. & to gain further knowledge, i aasked my boyfriend the smell & it had a fishy odor, but i feel i've had that for a while, but no other syptoms...he has never had oral sex before. it was a first for both of us.
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A fishy scent can sometimes be an indication of an infection or imbalance, and yeast infections aren't the only kind of genital infections there are. We can also develop some genital infections even without ever having had any kind of sexual activity at all.

So, perhaps -- for your health, more than anything else -- it would be smart to see a gynecologist? If you haven't gotten started with that yearly healthcare, sounds like it's about time anyway, at the very least for a consultation/education visit, as you're starting to become sexually active.

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