I was circumcised as an infant. I'm 21 now. Recently I've been reading more about circumcision and it's been fairly distressing to me. I live in the US, and I feel like our culture is really backwards with respect to infant circumcisions and such.
I'm trying to come to terms with it. I guess my primary concerns are that:
1) I don't get to experience the same sensations as a "natural" male; I do feel like I'm incomplete and missing out on something, since the foreskin is supposed to be quite sensitive.
2) I've read that it's possible over long periods of time for the glans to desensitize due to constant contact with clothing, though I don't know if this is true or not.
3) I feel like my sexual experiences are inherently inferior to those of a uncircumcised man or an uncircumcised woman, who have their genitals intact. I worry that my partner must enjoy sex more than me because they have more nerve endings. ...I realize that this might sound silly, and maybe a bit irrational, but emotionally, it's how I feel, and it hurts.
4) I feel like I've been violated in that this was done without my permission. It's sort of appalling to me that my parents, or anyone's parents, would voluntarily have this done to their son (even PAY for it to be done, as is sometimes the case in the US, apparently). I know they may have made such a decision on incorrect or biased information given to them by doctors, but still, it gets me.
I guess it would be cool to hear from other circumcised men who have either gone through a similar crisis as this and have come to terms with it, or, circumcised men who just aren't bothered by it! I just want to learn to accept myself, because I'm having a hard time doing so.
Finally, I'm not considering it at this point and I'm not sure I would, but I have noticed that there are methods for foreskin restoration (ex: http://www.norm.org/). Of course it can't restore everything, but it does something. Well, supposedly, anyway. Are any of these methods actually medically legitimate, or are they just promoted by anti-circ groups without any authority? Because my initial reaction is that I'm highly suspicious.
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elfgum37: I'm not a person with a penis. But in the case that you don't hear from men on this like you're looking for, feel free to bump your thread if you want to talk about it, period, with someone sans penis, but who thinks how you're feeling is valid and would be glad to talk this through with you.
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I am circumcised and it doesnít bother me. I will say that I am curious as to what it would be like if I wasnít circumcised, but it is nothing more that a curiosity. I do not feel that I am missing out on anything. I feel that while it may be true that my penis is less sensitive, being circumcised, I look at it as being able to enjoy things longer. I feel that the quality of my experiences have been more influenced by my state of mind at the time than from my physical sensations. In other words, if Iím not fully into it then it isnít that great and this is especially true when I am really into the moment then it doesnít take as much to build and/or a slow build can be mind blowing too. I do not have any ill feelings or blame my parents for their decision because I believe they did what they thought was best for me at the time. As far as restoring the foreskin, while they may be able to restore the skin, I donít believe that they could restore the lost nerves, it is hard enough for neurosurgeons to repair severed nerves on a fresh injury, and those nerve endings are gone.
I hope that my thoughts and feelings are helpful for you. I wish you well with finding some peace with this.
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