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Tarnished
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Scleteen's Facebook group posted this article; orgasm differences (to impress others at parties) - http://enagoski.wordpress.com/2010/04/10/orgasm-differences-to-impress-others-at-parties

There was a quote in particular that made me think; "Since women don’t ejaculate, no refraction happens."

Women do ejaculate, grated it is pretty different to male ejaculation and has a different purpose, but why don't we need that rest period after ejaculation?

My understanding is that ejaculate comes from a gland near to the urethra that becomes erect during sex and ejaculation is the fluid that drains from there......is it the fluid that causes the erection? If so wouldn't you then lose that when you ejaculate? I guess erection isn't needed for us female folk, but what is the function with ejaculate......why does it do that? Why if we're so similar to men didn't we end up with some shut-off after sex?

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Heather
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Tarnished: I agree that Emily's sentence there was inaccurate.

But women don't have refractory periods, neither with orgasm nor ejaculation.

Erection in the male or female body isn't caused by fluid besides blood: erection happens because of blood flow to the genitals when we become and remain aroused.

I'm not sure anyone can answer the question of why women don't need a refractory period, because that's one of those things where we'd need to see the blueprints for your human design. [Smile] However, I'd suggest that what's likely is that since ejaculation or orgasm isn't part of our reproductive function like it is for male-bodied people, that's probably why.

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Is the lack of a refractory period really true for all women, though? After my orgasm, my mind sort of turns off "aroused mode" (although my body still feels aroused - I guess it's proof that the mind is the largest sexual organ) and further stimulation feels nice, but doesn't really go anywhere.
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Heather
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One doesn't need to have a refractory period to simply feel done with sex at some point. In other words, women not having a refractory period doesn't mean women want sex 24/7 or feel aroused 24/7.

As well, not everyone, or everyone every time, is capable of multiple orgasm or wants that. Plenty of people are done with one or feel done with one.

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But if you (the general you, not you personally) aren't capable of further orgasms, doesn't that make it a refractory period? Sorry if I seem obtuse here.
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Heather
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Not per how you're describing, no. By technical definition, a refractory period is the time after a neuron fires or a muscle fiber contracts during which a stimulus will not evoke a response, or, specific to sexual response, the time after orgasm during which it is physiologically impossible for an individual to have additional orgasms.

If you are female bodied, you're not likely actually physiologically incapable of orgasm for a given period of time, it just hasn't happened for you. With male-bodied people, even though that period of time varies, they are generally physiologically incapable.

But obviously, there are semantics involved here. If you want to call that your refractory period, I don't see why you can't -- I mean, it's not like your sex life is being used for any studies -- but I also think you don't need to call it that to make clear that you're unlikely to orgasm again for a while, you know?

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