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jap
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Hello,

I do not like people touching me. When I say this, I mean I dislike anyone coming anywhere near me, family or not. Also, I have never been sexually aroused before. I have kissed two different people before, but felt no emotional or physical pull towards them. Basically, I kissed them because I wanted to get my first kiss over with and have some experience. However,I did not enjoy either kiss and was quite uncomfrtable because they were pressing up against me. As I stated above, I hate when people touch me. Also, I do not wish for anyone to touch me in any way. I do not want a boyfriend or girlfriend or anything of the sort. Also, I am a girl. I have no problems with this, but everyone around me believes I am abnormal. Does anyone know if any of this is typical of a teenage girl?

Sincerely,
JAP

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Heather
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Your gender isn't an issue here. To be clear, what kind of touch someone likes or doesn't, wants or does not, isn't about if they are a boy or a girl. Preferences around all of that vary amongst all genders.

In terms of you being uncomfortable with being touched in general, is this also true for you with, say, getting a hug from family and friends? Sounds like it, but want to check. If it is, have you discussed that with your doctor?

I ask that because in general, touch (sex can be part of that, but I'm talking about touch in the most basic sense, like how babies need to be held) is one of the most basic human needs. So, if a person is strongly averse to all touch of all kinds, by anyone at all, including people they love and trust with basic (not sexual) affectionate touch, that may suggest something is going on with or different for a person psychologically, like them having been traumatized in the past, or, something totally different than that, like types of autism.

[ 01-09-2010, 12:55 PM: Message edited by: Heather ]

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jap
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Hello,

Yes, I do not like when family or friends hug me. What do you mean by love and trust? I do not recall being traumatized in the past. Also, I do not see how I could have autism. I do not have all of the symptoms. Besides, would Doctor's not have already diagnosed it? Considering that I have been around people with diablities all of my life, I think soomeone would have noticed by now.
Sincerely,
JAP

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