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MentalMischief
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I have been cursed with an unfortunate mixture: black, fairly coarse and thick body hair with fair and very sensitive skin.
For my lower legs and underarms this isn't a problem, however it makes hair removal tricky on my upper thighs (VERY sensitive skin).
I also have a freak patch of hair growth that extends from my belly-button to my bikini line (basically a happy-trail).

I get waxed regularly, but having it done every few weeks is painful and getting expensive. But shaving aggravates my skin terribly, and hair removal creams only work for like...a day...then Im stubbly again.
I'm very interested in getting some laser treatment done, but Im aware that its expensive. I wondered if anyone on here has had it and whether its good to have.

This hair problem is very embarassing for me and really dents my confidence badly. I've even avoided physical intimacy with my bf because of it.

My second querie is about shaving.
In some places I've read that it makes hair grow back thicker, courser etc...and in others Ive read that its a myth. Can anyone help?

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orca
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MentalMischief, you've been around here long enough to know that we do not address cosmetic issues like body hair removal. If you want to talk about how your embarrassment with this has effected you and your relationships, we can certainly do that, but we will not give advice on how to remove hair or on laser hair removal. If you want such advice, you can either do a Google search or talk to a specialist or someone who has had it done themselves.

So, would you like to talk some more about feeling embarrassed due to body hair and body image?

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MentalMischief
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Sorry.

Forget it - just lock it or whatevs.

[ 10-04-2009, 03:07 PM: Message edited by: MentalMischief ]

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orca
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Well, hey, we're glad to talk about the self-esteem aspect of this some more with you. We just can't give advice on how to go about removing body hair because 1) it's outside the scope of our goals and 2) it's actually sort of in conflict with our goals of encouraging better self-esteem, body image, and self-love. But we want to help you feel better about yourself and happier with your body, so we can talk about this issue some more, if you want to talk.

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MentalMischief
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Apologies for my short reply - I was really feeling bad about it all yesterday. I don't feel able to talk about any of this anywhere so to be told that I basically should know better than to ask here (which I didn't, actually - I thought body issues could be discussed here) didn't go down well with me at the time.

Didn't mean to come across as rude.

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Heather
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Do you want to talk about WHY you're feeling so bad about this?

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orca
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MentalMischief, you didn't come across rude at all! I'm really sorry if I made you feel bad, and I'm sorry for coming across so snippy. I'd had you confused with another user who had asked a similar question in the past and been pointed to the FAQ sheet on shaving/body hair removal. I hope you will come back and join us for a conversation about this. We don't want you walking around feeling so crummy about yourself!

But we'd like to help you find other ways of feeling good about yourself rather than paying a ton of money for a painful procedure that may still leave you feeling unhappy with yourself. I understand it is difficult to talk about our bodies, but rest assured this is a safe space to do so. We will never point a user to shaving or laser hair removal because that is an individual preference, and we want to focus on ways to love our bodies as they are.

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MentalMischief
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Thanks, orca - didn't mean to make you feel bad or anything. [Smile]

I've never really thought about WHY I feel bad about my body...I just...do.
Everyone's so busy trying to convince me that I'm perfectly fine as I am that they've never actually asked me why.

Since I was about 12 I've been overweight.
I think its because it was about this time that I was moved from a school I loved, and into a new one. I was only there for 2 years and never settled in. I was unhappy but never talked about it, so I started to comfort eat.
I've basically been fat since then and I hate it. I really have tried to lose weight but I've actually put more on in the last year.

The hair thing makes it ten times worse because it seems like Im constantly battling with it all the time.
I hate being hairy. I hate being overweight. I just feel like I'm everything that makes someone ugly.

Sorry...Im just rambling now, but its good to get it out there. Got nowhere else to say this stuff...

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Alice
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Hey MentalMischief, I'm stepping in here mid-convo, hope that's okay.

Have you taken a stroll through the article, sexpert questions, and blog posts on the main site tagged with 'body image?'You can do so here: http://www.scarleteen.com/tags/body_image

A great one here: Hair, There and Everywhere

It's totally okay to vent, and to air out how you're feeling about yourself. Totally a good thing. However, it may help to get some positive affirmations going as well. What do you like about yourself? What are you good at? Try to repeat positive things about yourself in your head more often than the negative. It could become a habit and you may just start to believe it yourself. [Smile]

Also - a great read right here: Seven Ways to Love Your Body

Have a little reading time with those links and feel free to post again with any thoughts or questions. [Smile]

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