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BlackCat
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So I just came back from my second gynaecological exam ever. The last time was a couple of years ago and didn't go over too well since I freaked out and didn't get any exam done. Having not been sexually active at the time I didn't really worry about it too much.

This time, the same thing happened. I started absolutely bawling before I could even open my legs. I'm more sexually active now and this is starting to worry me. Not only that, but it's been about two hours now and I haven't really calmed down much, I've still been crying on and off and mentally my stability isn't so much.

I've never been sexually assaulted and I don't know why I can't handle a doctor's visit. The doctor herself doesn't make me uncomfortable. And the only other medical thing that makes me panic is needles, though I'm worse with those.

Any advice? I really think I should get an exam done before becoming any more sexually active. Not to mention I think I have a yeast infection.

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Heather
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You know, I'd say that if a patient starts bawling, you just don't do an exam that day, period. So -- especially if that is not what happened -- even how a given doctor is approaching this could very understandably be a source of your fears and bad experiences.

What I'd suggest is being very clear with an OB/GYN before you see them that you are a nervous or anxious patient. I'd describe how you have responded before, and just have a conversation with your healthcare provider about how they are going to manage that during your exam. You don't have to know why you feel this way as much as you just need a way to work through it.

(Though if you want to talk to try and figure out why, we certainly can do that.)

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BlackCat
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I've had the same doctor both times, and both times she's told me if I get uncomfortable, just tell her to stop and she will. Which is what happened both times before she could even start the pelvic exam.

I was obviously nervous before she even came in, and expressed that and she was super nice and tried to calm me down by talking about mundane things. While I totally appreciate her attitude I do not appreciate mine.

I guess I don't care why as much as how to work through this, yes. Do you have any suggestions? I can't imagine this is normal, but at the same time I can't imagine this kind of situation is so rare it's unheard of. . .

Thanks for your reply, by the way.

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-Lauren-
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BlackCat, might you consider a short-action anti-anxiety drug like Diapam/Valium? GYN's are usually pretty good about prescribing a few before a procedure that makes a patient nervous, and I've popped a few before visits with good success.
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Heather
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Lauren's suggestion is a good one, and also a fairly common practice with anxious patients for any kind of healthcare.

I don't know if I'd say anything about this being normal or not normal, but it certainly is common for people to feel very nervous or scared about sexual/genital healthcare. Even without any kind of trauma in the past, you've got all kinds of social messages about genitals being private, and a lot of people also (validly) have anxiety about people not close to them touching their bodies or certain body parts.

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